This would workSomeone said show up drunk.
And to that I would add. If it's an open coffin when you go up to it to pay your respects. Barf in it.
If that doesn't stop funeral invitations, nothing will.
Even better! That dude can go ass up in his grave, just because he's dead doesn't mean he's forgiven for all his years of shitting on you & the wife.OP, just stop by and say you came to make sure he was dead, then leave.
That being said, ask your wife for a romantic dance on his grave.