This would work
Even better! That dude can go ass up in his grave, just because he's dead doesn't mean he's forgiven for all his years of shitting on you & the wife.
That being said, ask your wife for a romantic dance on his grave.
How would you handle this?
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That being said, ask your wife for a romantic dance on his grave.
Ask yourself these questions.
1. What would going accomplish?
2. What would not going accomplish?
If I were to guess, it would accomplish more and avoid more BS by just going. I totally understand your point though. My wife refused to go to her father's funeral, because he was in and out of her life so much it had a horrible impact on her and she cut him off completely. To this day, he brother and some family have still not forgiven her and it's been a few years now. I supported her, and still support her decision to this day, but I sometimes wonder how things would be had we gone.
1. What would going accomplish?
2. What would not going accomplish?
If I were to guess, it would accomplish more and avoid more BS by just going. I totally understand your point though. My wife refused to go to her father's funeral, because he was in and out of her life so much it had a horrible impact on her and she cut him off completely. To this day, he brother and some family have still not forgiven her and it's been a few years now. I supported her, and still support her decision to this day, but I sometimes wonder how things would be had we gone.
This is the best response. They say that funerals are for the living but in this case, it seems like it's the living that are the problem. I would not go to the funeral of somebody that screwed me over in my life and I wouldn't let my family pressure me into doing it against my better judgement.
People seem to forget that funerals are not for the dead, they are for the living. The dead don't give 2 chits who's attending.
U.M.
U.M.
Wise words U.M. Wise words!
I would ask your wife what SHE wants since you already know her family wants her to go. If she feels that what this person did or said makes it to tough a situation to deal with tell her to stick to her guns and don't go. If she however wants to go I say go and support her and any other family that is there that you care about. So basically go for the people you care about not him.
My mom did that with her step mother. That was a blast.
This. This man may be dead, however, you guys have a lot of time to mend any mishaps that may have happened with any other family members. If you don't attend, then there will be no possibility of fixing anything or continuing any kind of relationship with them. I've been through this with my family when I was younger. We didn't show up and my immediate family has basically been "exiled" from the extended family ever since. I grew up with no cousins, aunts or uncles because my other side of the family is just my grandparents and one aunt I never saw. You don't have to act like you were his best friend or anything but just make sure everyone understands you're there as family, for the family as a unit.
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From the sounds of it, you won't be missed if you don't show up. Don't go unless you're sincere about it.
In the end, if he could ask, would he say "WTF are you doing here?" Or "THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR COMING!" would drive my decision if I'd go. Just my 0.02...
Go. Then stick around after and piss on his grave... Seriously? **** him. No way in Hell I would go if I were you. But then again, I really hate going to funerals (or weddings) of people I LIKE.
I don't go to family funerals for most my relatives since I refuse to give them a chance to suck me into their bullshit. Therefor I say you tell them to piss off.
This.
Funerals are not about the dead, they are about the living. I've gone to plenty of funerals for people I had never met. I went because I was close with their friends or family and wanted to show respect and support them.
So as long as you are not talking about having to fly across country, drive over, shake some hands and write off the two hours.
I haven't read the other responses, so if im repeating anything above, I apologize.
It's my opinion that funerals have little to do with the actual deceased (excluding the actual putting them in the ground or spreading ashes sorta thing - minor details). They are more about the living that remain after they are gone. A way for us to say goodbye and cope with a loss of a loved one. We think of funerals as a time to celebrate the lives and accomplishments of the dead.
But, we don't often consider, or even want to acknowledge, this is the last best time to give someone a long overdue "Fu** you" to their face. Sometimes it's just feels good to tell someone to "go rot and burn in hell" when they might already actually be there.
Just thought, not a sermon.
It's my opinion that funerals have little to do with the actual deceased (excluding the actual putting them in the ground or spreading ashes sorta thing - minor details). They are more about the living that remain after they are gone. A way for us to say goodbye and cope with a loss of a loved one. We think of funerals as a time to celebrate the lives and accomplishments of the dead.
But, we don't often consider, or even want to acknowledge, this is the last best time to give someone a long overdue "Fu** you" to their face. Sometimes it's just feels good to tell someone to "go rot and burn in hell" when they might already actually be there.
Just thought, not a sermon.
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