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  1. BlckBox04

    BlckBox04 I am the liquor Established Member

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    hate to break it to you but unfortunately you're going to be dealing with this until this guy takes his dirt nap
     
  2. Russo

    Russo Unofficial Glass Tech Established Member

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    my wife was married before, had three boys.. the father is a POS sex offender, two times domestic violence, and simple battery... he does everything to undermine us.. our oldest (15) was recently in the hospital for five days, he didn't visit one time. it goes on and on... my advice is to never marry someone with **** trophies unless the ex is dead or incarcerated for his/her natural life..
     
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  3. Corbic

    Corbic Well-Known Member Premium Member Established Member

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    Well that was stupid.
     
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  4. Sirraf

    Sirraf Well-Known Member Premium Member Established Member

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    I lol'd
     
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  5. CompOrange04GT

    CompOrange04GT I like Wood, and not Oak in my butt Established Member

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    Yeah... definitely not adding money to my life because of a douchebag. I’ve just told them to leave the phone at home as of today.

    If it’s that important he can call the mom.

    He’s already started to blow up phones haha

    I have a phone ready to record for when he pulls the “ I’m law enforcement “ card.
     
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  6. Outlaw99

    Outlaw99 Join us. Moderator

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    Sadly, theres not much you can do but tolerate and deal with it. It sucks the kids are involved. His disdain for you and his ex will always win the battle in his mind when making decisions regarding the situation.

    Or, you can always call Jack Reacher.

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  7. MG0h3

    MG0h3 Well-Known Member Premium Member Established Member

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    I agree. In the scheme of things, this situation doesn't seem all that bad. Mostly just nitpicky stuff. Can be quite annoying, but knowing what I and others have dealt with, seems quite manageable.

    Best advice I can give you is don't let it run your life and take all of your energy. I tried the document everything, get police reports, etc. All it did was waste more time and energy as I was constantly thinking about it, knowing the chances of the legal system helping me were virtually nil.

    Gotta ask yourself is the juice worth the squeeze.
     
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  8. Mpoitrast87

    Mpoitrast87 Well-Known Member Established Member

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    May be a shitty thing to say but, don't get serious with someone with kids. I know i never will.
     
  9. Zemedici

    Zemedici Well-Known Member Established Member

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    dealbreaker for me too. Because this situation happens literally 90%+ of the time. Especially when you're a stud like @13COBRA ;)

    However! Different strokes for different folks.
     
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  10. Deceptive

    Deceptive Would Smash Premium Member Established Member

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    I feel like this will need to be dealt with in one of two ways; maybe both.

    1. Legal system, document everything no matter how insignificant it may seem.

    2. Have a little man to bitch time. Sit him down and have a little heart to heart.

    I’d drop the hammer and I would explain to the kids everything going on. He wants to play games? Play a better game.

    It seems to me that he wants to treat people like shit and be controlling. Sometimes you have to get a little dirty.


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  11. Mpoitrast87

    Mpoitrast87 Well-Known Member Established Member

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    Big reason my ex and I broke up. She was great. Her family..... not so much.
     
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  12. CompOrange04GT

    CompOrange04GT I like Wood, and not Oak in my butt Established Member

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    Try finding a woman that’s 30+ with no kids.

    Good luck
     
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  13. MG0h3

    MG0h3 Well-Known Member Premium Member Established Member

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    The solution is simple....


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  14. cbj5259

    cbj5259 Well-Known Member Established Member

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    If you read correctly I stated that if there was infidelity and he was involved then he and she are getting what they deserved. The OP stated that was not case so it's a moot point...and I dont think you really know what a cuck is. And you show your absolute lack of knowledge about womens infidelity if you think it's about the D.

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  15. ssj4sadie

    ssj4sadie Well-Known Member Established Member

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    Don’t back pedal now. You may have left an open ended caveat, but you justified the actions of a petulant man-child regardless. And I’m well aware of what a cuck is. Whether it’s one who gets off on their wife getting ****ed by another dude or one who lets another man ****ing his wife dictate his actions. Either way, it’s bitch mode cuck shit.
     
  16. cbj5259

    cbj5259 Well-Known Member Established Member

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    No pedaling back at all...I'm all for making my exes life a living hell because of the choices she made and I understand those who do as well. In the OPs case, obviously the ex husband is a flaming asshole...in my case, I'll never apologize for giving the bitch hell every chance I get. Until you have been raped by the gynocentric court system and been forced to pay alimony to a woman who cheated, took half your shit and then is given a payday by the court for doing so...your opinion is without merit. So white knight away for the opposite sex my friend...

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  17. Mpoitrast87

    Mpoitrast87 Well-Known Member Established Member

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    Times are changing.. less and less women having kids as time goes on.
     
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    I never believed people like that really existed until my ex-wife couldn't be bothered on a Saturday night to visit our 2 year old in the emergency room. People are evil and disgusting. Kids deserve better.
     
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  19. lOOKnGO

    lOOKnGO Keep'um smiling Established Member

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    From a different prospective. My role was reversed. I had custody of my to oldest boys, and a live in girlfriend. Drama was an every day thing. Seven years she put up with that crap, and my baggage before I married her. Turns out that was just bootcamp, for more of life's obstacles to be thrown at us. 22 years we have kicked lifes drama together. It has made us who we are. I would go through it all over again, as long as she was with me.
    If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. Don't expect the reward of a full belly.
     
  20. Lambeau

    Lambeau Superfleck Moonbird Premium Member Established Member Beer Money Bros.

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    Hey Nick, all I can add is that "life is short". Whatever positives you can add to those children's lives will be realized by them, sometime. You'll do the right thing.
     
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