Help Dealing with Ex.

BlckBox04

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hate to break it to you but unfortunately you're going to be dealing with this until this guy takes his dirt nap
 

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my wife was married before, had three boys.. the father is a POS sex offender, two times domestic violence, and simple battery... he does everything to undermine us.. our oldest (15) was recently in the hospital for five days, he didn't visit one time. it goes on and on... my advice is to never marry someone with **** trophies unless the ex is dead or incarcerated for his/her natural life..
 

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Get them a separate phone for when its your time and forward the calls? GPS always shows them at the house?

Yeah... definitely not adding money to my life because of a douchebag. I’ve just told them to leave the phone at home as of today.

If it’s that important he can call the mom.

He’s already started to blow up phones haha

I have a phone ready to record for when he pulls the “ I’m law enforcement “ card.
 

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Sadly, theres not much you can do but tolerate and deal with it. It sucks the kids are involved. His disdain for you and his ex will always win the battle in his mind when making decisions regarding the situation.

Or, you can always call Jack Reacher.

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Sadly, theres not much you can do but tolerate and deal with it. It sucks the kids are involved. His disdain for you and his ex will always win the battle in his mind when making decisions regarding the situation.

Or, you can always call Jack Reacher.

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I agree. In the scheme of things, this situation doesn't seem all that bad. Mostly just nitpicky stuff. Can be quite annoying, but knowing what I and others have dealt with, seems quite manageable.

Best advice I can give you is don't let it run your life and take all of your energy. I tried the document everything, get police reports, etc. All it did was waste more time and energy as I was constantly thinking about it, knowing the chances of the legal system helping me were virtually nil.

Gotta ask yourself is the juice worth the squeeze.
 

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I feel like this will need to be dealt with in one of two ways; maybe both.

1. Legal system, document everything no matter how insignificant it may seem.

2. Have a little man to bitch time. Sit him down and have a little heart to heart.

I’d drop the hammer and I would explain to the kids everything going on. He wants to play games? Play a better game.

It seems to me that he wants to treat people like shit and be controlling. Sometimes you have to get a little dirty.


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This gave me a good laugh.


So you're justifying what the person in the OP is doing? Sounds like you're the cuck, reliving all the times your ex was getting the D on the side.
If you read correctly I stated that if there was infidelity and he was involved then he and she are getting what they deserved. The OP stated that was not case so it's a moot point...and I dont think you really know what a cuck is. And you show your absolute lack of knowledge about womens infidelity if you think it's about the D.

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If you read correctly I stated that if there was infidelity and he was involved then he and she are getting what they deserved. The OP stated that was not case so it's a moot point...and I dont think you really know what a cuck is. And you show your absolute lack of knowledge about womens infidelity if you think it's about the D.

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Don’t back pedal now. You may have left an open ended caveat, but you justified the actions of a petulant man-child regardless. And I’m well aware of what a cuck is. Whether it’s one who gets off on their wife getting ****ed by another dude or one who lets another man ****ing his wife dictate his actions. Either way, it’s bitch mode cuck shit.
 

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Don’t back pedal now. You may have left an open ended caveat, but you justified the actions of a petulant man-child regardless. And I’m well aware of what a cuck is. Whether it’s one who gets off on their wife getting ****ed by another dude or one who lets another man ****ing his wife dictate his actions. Either way, it’s bitch mode cuck shit.
No pedaling back at all...I'm all for making my exes life a living hell because of the choices she made and I understand those who do as well. In the OPs case, obviously the ex husband is a flaming asshole...in my case, I'll never apologize for giving the bitch hell every chance I get. Until you have been raped by the gynocentric court system and been forced to pay alimony to a woman who cheated, took half your shit and then is given a payday by the court for doing so...your opinion is without merit. So white knight away for the opposite sex my friend...

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From a different prospective. My role was reversed. I had custody of my to oldest boys, and a live in girlfriend. Drama was an every day thing. Seven years she put up with that crap, and my baggage before I married her. Turns out that was just bootcamp, for more of life's obstacles to be thrown at us. 22 years we have kicked lifes drama together. It has made us who we are. I would go through it all over again, as long as she was with me.
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Hey Nick, all I can add is that "life is short". Whatever positives you can add to those children's lives will be realized by them, sometime. You'll do the right thing.
 

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