I'm thinking the best approach is to tell her that right now we have everything we NEED, but if she goes back to work we can have everything we WANT and quit working a lot sooner, then back it up with data.
Controversial...is this wrong?
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By curb stomping people. LOL
Honesty, no matter how difficult, is always the best way to go. Explain to her your burden and the relief her having a job would give you.
I went to dentist. I… I went for tooth decay. They did awful thing. He ripped my teet and my gum. I cannot talk. I cannot eat. He cursed me and… and he hit me while I’m sleeping.
And then, he put me under sedation. I wake up my pants unbuttoned. It is… my teet, gum is blee… dripping blood. I cannot even blow bubbles when I chew gum, when I drive.
That's what I'd do if I was in your situation. You both would be thankful to have that early retirement when the time comes.
Just keep separate retirement funds like my parents did. Tell her that since you're the one working you'll change your retirement fund to ONLY fund yourself. If she wants a retirement fund then she'll have to earn it.
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Oh ya, in June it will have been 3 years since we bought on the far east side and we could easily sell for 25% more than we bought the house for. Nice when selling but hard to buy in this market. Maybe we'll buy my in-laws house in Waunakee someday when they move into the country and we can get a good deal and cutout the realtor fee.
With any luck she'll see the wisdom in this. If not, I'm guessing you'll be shit out of luck
Your risk is that you lose your job and spend 7 months trying to find a new one. In the modern economy, that is not an unusual situation. In that unlikely event, she will have become stale and will also have trouble finding a job. When I look at a resume, if the person hasn't worked in five years, I toss their resume in the trash. It is a sign that the lack self motivation. You then blame each other and divorce occurs.
Your second risk is that as she matures, she is going to wake up one day, realize that she let her life go past her without fulfilling her destiny. Naturally she will blame you for making her stay home with kids (even though it is what she wanted at the time). She will then start looking outside the home for things to fulfill her life, those things will not include you and divorce will occur.
Your last risk is that she stays home and contributes little. You then go out and buy a cool new car and some hot young thing helps you to fulfill your life and divorce occurs because you begin to view her as a free loader.
Your second risk is that as she matures, she is going to wake up one day, realize that she let her life go past her without fulfilling her destiny. Naturally she will blame you for making her stay home with kids (even though it is what she wanted at the time). She will then start looking outside the home for things to fulfill her life, those things will not include you and divorce will occur.
Your last risk is that she stays home and contributes little. You then go out and buy a cool new car and some hot young thing helps you to fulfill your life and divorce occurs because you begin to view her as a free loader.
Bruno...nobody is getting your Jerky Boys reference! Those CD’s were funny stuff.
TOO MUCH PAIN!!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!
TOO MUCH PAIN!!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!
Hence the piano wire. It’s a lot cheaper than divorce.
I was waiting for someone to see what I did.
...just don't fall into the piano while cutting the wires, same goes for the dog!
Frickin Jerky Boys were the best Holy crap.
Good shit
Good shit
it sounds to me like you want more whats best for you rather than what is best for your wife and / or kids. if you don't NEED her to go to work why not suggest she get a job while the kids are in school so she can be home when they leave and when they get home? or just let her stay home till they graduate ?
I'm a big fan of just telling people what to do. But if you want to go passive, gradually build up the idea that there is some instability with your job.
so your solution is to lie.... great idea
Can we keep this serious please? Next derailed post gets a reward.
I apply military tactics to everything. Not everyone is competent enough to execute a white lie though. But it sounds better than buying cars to coerce job hunting.
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