Ok, SVTP. Tell me what a bad person/husband I am...
Five years ago my wife and I made the decision that she would quit her job (paid about $80k/yr) to stay at home with our kids, who at the time were 3 and 5 years old. She has stayed at home for the past 5 years but over the past 2 years she has worked part-time for some extra spending money (making anywhere from $700 - $1400 per month). Money is not an issue for us at the moment. My salary covers all expenses, all fun activities and activities for the kids, and retirement, plus we have over 6 months worth of salary saved "just in case."
Now that the kids are older (8 and 10 years old) I have been encouraging her over the past year or so to think about going back to work full-time. I told her to get a mid-level job without stress where she can go in at 8 and leave at 5. She won't make $80k, but she would make $50k without the stress or longer hours. She seems content to just let me continue to bear the financial burden; again, I provide everything for my family, no questions asked. It is my responsibility. She is not working this summer and I really want her to return to work in the fall after spending a sun drenched, Vegas summer poolside with the kids while I go to work everyday like clockwork (LOL). She seems resistant to the idea of going back full-time. The kids are not an issue before/after school so I'm a little ticked because I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. There is zero pressure for her to return to work. I have given my family a comfortable life, they deserve it. We aren't in financial stress.
So I am struggling with how the heck to get her to realize how happy it would make me for her to go back to work. She has had a nice run, we sacrificed a lot by her staying home the past five years.
One thought that crossed my mind was to buy the GT350 from the dealer down the street, as that would give her some motivation to get back to work, like "oh boy, we've got this car payment now, I need to do something to help with the household income." Is that wrong? That I would try to force her hand by putting a cobra in the driveway? LOL
And before you guys say anything about "just talk to her; rationalize with her." I know there are a lot of people out there who struggle with how to tell their wives that the gravy train needs to come to stop, but don't know how to do it without having holy hell unleashed on them at home! LOL
Five years ago my wife and I made the decision that she would quit her job (paid about $80k/yr) to stay at home with our kids, who at the time were 3 and 5 years old. She has stayed at home for the past 5 years but over the past 2 years she has worked part-time for some extra spending money (making anywhere from $700 - $1400 per month). Money is not an issue for us at the moment. My salary covers all expenses, all fun activities and activities for the kids, and retirement, plus we have over 6 months worth of salary saved "just in case."
Now that the kids are older (8 and 10 years old) I have been encouraging her over the past year or so to think about going back to work full-time. I told her to get a mid-level job without stress where she can go in at 8 and leave at 5. She won't make $80k, but she would make $50k without the stress or longer hours. She seems content to just let me continue to bear the financial burden; again, I provide everything for my family, no questions asked. It is my responsibility. She is not working this summer and I really want her to return to work in the fall after spending a sun drenched, Vegas summer poolside with the kids while I go to work everyday like clockwork (LOL). She seems resistant to the idea of going back full-time. The kids are not an issue before/after school so I'm a little ticked because I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. There is zero pressure for her to return to work. I have given my family a comfortable life, they deserve it. We aren't in financial stress.
So I am struggling with how the heck to get her to realize how happy it would make me for her to go back to work. She has had a nice run, we sacrificed a lot by her staying home the past five years.
One thought that crossed my mind was to buy the GT350 from the dealer down the street, as that would give her some motivation to get back to work, like "oh boy, we've got this car payment now, I need to do something to help with the household income." Is that wrong? That I would try to force her hand by putting a cobra in the driveway? LOL
And before you guys say anything about "just talk to her; rationalize with her." I know there are a lot of people out there who struggle with how to tell their wives that the gravy train needs to come to stop, but don't know how to do it without having holy hell unleashed on them at home! LOL
