all three of mine were surprises lol. but i always wanted kids and so did both baby mamas.
first one i had was at 25, she was 22. i was good with it. had a new career starting. she was too young and just working a job. she was happy about it but not really ready. financially or maturity wise. in retrospect, 30+ would have been better. having a kid that early certainly tanked our prospects of buying a house, even though they were giving out home loans like candy.
that marriage fell apart for many reasons.
years later met my current wife. we had our first oops at age 36 for me, and 35 for her. we were much better financially and maturity. already owned a home, cars, dogs, etc..
a few years later, we were talking/joking about having another one but decided we were getting too old as we were nearing 40. it definitely gets riskier. we decided i would get "fixed" and thanks to stupid kaiser making you set up appointments and take classes etc.. instead of being able to just go in and get it done, well we got surprise #2. she arrived a little over a month ago. its like resetting the clock to freedom all over again
now ive taken the stupid class at kaiser and ready to have my balls cut open. just had to wait about FOUR MONTHS for an appointment. wtf?! and then after you get the clip, you have to wait another 3 months to make sure the pipes are all cleared. ive already forewarned her that if we get another surprise im faking my death and leaving the country! at least she'll get a nice fat payout from the insurance lol.
delivery day is scary. we almost had a complication during delivery during this last one which was a bit nerve wracking but it all worked out well. so are the years following it. theyre just so fragile. everything from SIDS to autism to whatever... once they hit about 4/5 theyre pretty robust and good to go lol. i just keep looking forward to the next milestone. when they start eating normal food, POTTY trained, sleep in their own bed, able to get in their car seat on their own and put their own seat belt on. those little things help make life easier lol.
theyre expensive. diapers are $$ and you go through them like crazy. clothes are too bad but they go through them fast. childcare can be a killer. luckily grandma is able to stay with us and take care of the baby during the week. my wife would never leave the baby with a stranger. too many horror stories. in fact only grandmas (2) can babysit. once my son hit two, we enrolled him in pre-school. $$$ but worth it. when he was around other kids his age people would think he was a year or two older because he was so verbal and articulate. he's about to finish pre-k and is in his fourth year of school! many kids dont even start school to kindergarten (sad).
Pregnancy tits. There's no doubt, you'll have a smile on your face.
There is absolutely nothing greater!!! The best feeling in the world.
Hahaha I did mine backwards. Had my son then bought my boss....total slide of hand and misdirection!!!
