Could you move into another man's house??
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OP....if you are really into this woman and want to work towards a long term relationship then there is no problem with this at all, despite how some of these holier-than-thou responses read. Aside from moving in, you must ask yourself if you are willing to be a positive influence in the kid's life. I'm assuming the kid likes you already and the woman is a decent person.
I think its smart for the woman to want to stay in that house. This way if things don't work out, she doesn't have to uproot her kid. Pay your fair share, be a pillar of support and show respect for both of them and see how it goes. It's a great deal for everyone.
I think its smart for the woman to want to stay in that house. This way if things don't work out, she doesn't have to uproot her kid. Pay your fair share, be a pillar of support and show respect for both of them and see how it goes. It's a great deal for everyone.
She's a Ford truck woman!!! Gotta love country girls!
Well in my previous marriage I raised two stepkids of 1 and 8 and were 14 and 21 when done so I'm good with the whole kid thing and being his buddy/mentor and yes dad will still be in the picture. And yes I've told her with her keeping the house and keeping the kid in his element would be very important I would imagine and she agrees which is why she wants the house. I'd obviously pay my fair share, sure as hell not that guy.
And FWIW, I've known dad for many years but not what I'd consider a friend, he was a Mustang guy back in the day which is how we know each other, lol.
Hey, it's the truth. If it's not you then it doesn't pertain. Simple as that.
There's your solution - sell him your Cobra on a deal in exchange for his blessing on you moving into his house :-D
I can show you empirical data devoid of any religious connotations to prove my point. It's a foolish idea and there is something very wrong with it.
Then educate me. Be sure to filter your results to eliminate welfare moms who bring in jobless men who are leechers.
You say she "ruined someone's life", so maybe I'm missing something. Seemed like a mutual split to me.
OP..... would she be entitled to less support from her ex if you were to move in? I've heard of cases where the woman would prefer to live alone because her payment arrangement with the ex would change if another man moved in.
She is not looking for support, just wants what is hers and that's it, they are not battling for anything, kids, assets, etc. She will obviously have to buy him out of the house but all other assets are what they are. Pretty easy split!
So what you are saying if any woman with children were to decide to divorce their husband, they are just bound to live by themselves until that child moves out?? Interesting.
This makes her sound like a winner. :lol1:
Don't move in with another gal so soon.
Yup. Why put the child at risk for something they didn't do? It's cruel.
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This one is rather dry, but informative.
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Pride is the enemy of relationships. The fact that her ex lived there should have no bearing on anything. But I personally would not even entertain the idea until I was married. Sounds like a recipe for disaster....
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I rofl'd pretty good at that one.
I don't see a problem in it, I mean obviously I'd have to take down any of the dudes decorations and stuff. Maybe repainting it would make it feel different too?
You realize that basically any house that you don't buy brand new is going to be something that another man "took pride in".
What's the difference in this example vs. buying a regular house by yourself that at another point in time was some other man's pride and joy?
Not to mention that every woman is one that a guy took pride in having at some point.
At risk of what? Having a father figure around if the actual father bails?
You said a stepparent is more likely to molest than an actual parent? No shit. So is an aunt or uncle, godparent, or literally ANYONE who isn't a parent. What point are you trying to prove by saying that?
My formative years were with a stepmother and my dad who lived together, and I'm unbelievably grateful for it.
It is a risk. The child doesn't need another father figure who will bail. Glad you agree with me on the molestation except we both know not even being genetically related under the same roof is even riskier.
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Does the reward outweigh the risk? The child also doesn't need to grow up without a father figure at all.
I'm speaking solely from my own personal experience, so I'm not trying to assert it as fact or tell anyone what to believe, but I just don't know what I would have done as far as character development without my stepmom around. My dad worked odd hours and wasnt home as much as a normal 9-5 family so it made things easier.
Could she have left and me be without a mother figure again? Sure. She also could have died in a wreck and it be the same ending.
The problem I had with your post is that it was your opinion and you presented it like a fact as far as moving in with a single parent. There's no correct answer regardless of whatever articles you may try to link me to. It's a case by case thing and up to the parent if the reward outweighs the risk.
Will mistakes be made? Sure. That doesn't mean it's okay to paint all cases with one brush. That's silly.
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