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[lilcoop03]

Thank you for all the deep information, guys. I know that everyone's situation seems to be vastly different with varying circumstances..

On the "even or odd ends" thing that was discussed above:

She has a good job and makes about the same amount of money that I do... That being said, she usually doesn't have a dime to show for it and it has always been up to me to take care "big" expenses for her/us...

We made an agreement when she moved in that she would pay the utilities/groceries and I would pay the mortgage (and she always did). All of our cars are paid off. This amounts to maybe $450/month...(nothing)

She spends a lot of her money buying things for the kids, which I honestly don't have a problem with but don't see why she doesn't/shouldn't have at least several thousand dollars in the bank... If the kids go to the doctor, she and her ex split the bills and any other kid-related expenses...

She owes me $4,000 for her old car which I recently sold after I bought her a new one (paid for). She doesn't want to give me this money now because she says she needs it to "start all over" in her new place that she has found to rent in the next town over that she has always wanted to live in the first place because her kids go to school there, her family lives there, and it would be more convenient for her and the kids. Moving there would turn my 15 min work commute to 40 mins each way and it has ZERO benefit for me (I hate the town).. Where I currently live is equal for both of us to work.

She says she will give me the ring back which appraises for around $7k but I'm sure I wont be able to get that much for it..

She also wants the golf cart that I bought for us and the kids 2 Christmases ago. I also just spent $1400 putting new batteries and other things on it as it has been sitting for months.

So, there's all that too....

 

[DaleM]

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[tones_RS3]

Thank you for all the deep information, guys. I know that everyone's situation seems to be vastly different with varying circumstances..
On the "even or odd ends" thing that was discussed above:
She has a good job and makes about the same amount of money that I do... That being said, she usually doesn't have a dime to show for it and it has always been up to me to take care "big" expenses for her/us...
We made an agreement when she moved in that she would pay the utilities/groceries and I would pay the mortgage (and she always did). All of our cars are paid off. This amounts to maybe $450/month.
She spends a lot of her money buying things for the kids, which I honestly don't have a problem with but don't see why she doesn't/shouldn't have at least several thousand dollars in the bank... If the kids go to the doctor, she and her ex split the bills and any other kid-related expenses...
She owes me $4,000 for her old car which I recently sold after I

I'll post it again,..........you made the right call.

 

[lilcoop03]

I'll post it again,..........you made the right call.

LoL. Did you re-read it after I edited it?

 

[tones_RS3]

LoL. Did you re-read it after I edited it?

LOL Yeah dude, that's nuts.
7K for a ring is huge money. I dished out half of that and was lucky to get a little more than half of it back. (Used it to help pay off the Roush. lol)
I too was stupid, and I mean, REALLY stupid, and co-signed for a brand new car, which after we broke up, she stopped paying on. So, to maintain my excellent credit, I made payments when that bitch didn't. I did talk to my lawyer about it and he said if it's in writing, nothing I could do about it. As wrong as she is he told me.
I stand by my statement of doing the right thing. lol Good luck bro.

 

[lilcoop03]

LOL Yeah dude, that's nuts.
7K for a ring is huge money. I dished out half of that and was lucky to get a little more than half of it back. (Used it to help pay off the Roush. lol)
I too was stupid, and I mean, REALLY stupid, and co-signed for a brand new car, which after we broke up, she stopped paying on. So, to maintain my excellent credit, I made payments when that bitch didn't. I did talk to my lawyer about it and he said if it's in writing, nothing I could do about it. As wrong as she is he told me.
I stand by my statement of doing the right thing. lol Good luck bro.

How did you get half the ring money back??

I paid $4500 for it but have appraisal paperwork for $7k

 

[tones_RS3]

How did you get half the ring money back??

Sold it to a jewelry shop in Downtown Boston. The Jeweler's Building.
There's like 10 different shops in one giant building. Plus, I tried some that were outside of that building. It was a pain in the ass. It took like 2 hours. lol

 

[gimmie11s]

Diamonds appreciate over time... not the other way awoind so you should be good there.

Sounds messy man!

No "clean" way to get it done that's for sure.

 

[black4vcobra]

LOL Yeah dude, that's nuts.
7K for a ring is huge money. I dished out half of that and was lucky to get a little more than half of it back. (Used it to help pay off the Roush. lol)
I too was stupid, and I mean, REALLY stupid, and co-signed for a brand new car, which after we broke up, she stopped paying on. So, to maintain my excellent credit, I made payments when that bitch didn't. I did talk to my lawyer about it and he said if it's in writing, nothing I could do about it. As wrong as she is he told me.
I stand by my statement of doing the right thing. lol Good luck bro.

Other than being a huge bitch, what would possess a woman to stop paying for the car? Did she just want to try to trash your credit so badly she was willing to trash her own?

 

[tones_RS3]

Other than being a huge bitch, what would possess a woman to stop paying for the car? Did she just want to try to trash your credit so badly she was willing to trash her own?

Bingo!
She wouldn't have been able to get the car without me cosigning. She had bad credit. What a straight up bitch. lol

 

[Never_Enough]

She legally has to give you the ring & the golf kart is now yours. Tell her pound sand. You might be SOL on that $4k too. Have it in writing? If so, bam take her ass to court.

 

[Never_Enough]

LOL Yeah dude, that's nuts.
7K for a ring is huge money. I dished out half of that and was lucky to get a little more than half of it back. (Used it to help pay off the Roush. lol)
I too was stupid, and I mean, REALLY stupid, and co-signed for a brand new car, which after we broke up, she stopped paying on. So, to maintain my excellent credit, I made payments when that bitch didn't. I did talk to my lawyer about it and he said if it's in writing, nothing I could do about it. As wrong as she is he told me.
I stand by my statement of doing the right thing. lol Good luck bro.

Ouch. I too have a fun car story with an ex.

I was 21 when I met her & she was 18. We were together 3.5 years. At some point, closer to the end than beginning, I had bought a new DD and it was cheaper insurance to put it on her's using her mom's PA address (We lived in NJ at the time) and she was also on the loan since it got me a better rate.

Well, she cheated & cleaned out the apartment while I was at work one day. Right down to the trash can & my Grandmother's silverware. She also stole said car. Many trips to court & $ wasted on a lawyer, we agreed to sell the Car to Carmax to be done w/the mess.

There was still $4k owed on the car after the sale. I had to come out of pocket for that. I got a judgment against her in court to pay me back. I saw a couple payments in the beginning then I never got another dime. I hope that bitch has died a slow death by now.

 

[tones_RS3]

Ouch. I too have a fun car story with an ex.
I was 21 when I met her & she was 18. We were together 3.5 years. At some point, closer to the end than beginning, I had bought a new DD and it was cheaper insurance to put it on her's using her mom's PA address (We lived in NJ at the time) and she was also on the loan since it got me a better rate.
Well, she cheated & cleaned out the apartment while I was at work one day. Right down to the trash can & my Grandmother's silverware. She also stole said car. Many trips to court & $ wasted on a lawyer, we agreed to sell the Car to Carmax to be done w/the mess.
There was still $4k owed on the car after the sale. I had to come out of pocket for that. I got a judgment against her in court to pay me back. I saw a couple payments in the beginning then I never got another dime. I hope that bitch has died a slow death by now.

lol
Damn,..........cold hearted bitches. That is bad. I would been even more pissed off.

 

[nxhappy]

sall good man...plenty of fish in the sea. keep your head up ! not the end of the world !

 

[kirks5oh]

It sucks dude. But you’re making the right call. For sure

 

[lilcoop03]

She legally has to give you the ring & the golf kart is now yours. Tell her pound sand. You might be SOL on that $4k too. Have it in writing? If so, bam take her ass to court.

I don't think I can do anything about the $4k. The check was in her name because the title was when I sold the car. We had a verbal agreement.

Didnt know she had to "legally" give me the ring back...??

And yeah, the golf cart thing is bs. She doesn't want anything in the house furniture wise and wants to buy new because of "memories" but she sure does want that damn golf cart..wtf

 

[STAMPEDE3]

She legally has to give you the ring .

That depends. This is why they say never ask a woman to marry you on Christmas/birthday/valentines/etc......
Then it can be considered a gift and she doesn't have to give it back.

 

[lilcoop03]

sall good man...plenty of fish in the sea. keep your head up ! not the end of the world !

Thank you sir. And I know this...Its gonna be soooo much better in a few weeks or so. It just sucks right now.

 

[lilcoop03]

That depends. This is why they say never ask a woman to marry you on Christmas/birthday/valentines/etc......
Then it can be considered a gift and she doesn't have to give it back.

It was definitely not given to her for an occasion like those...

 

[nxhappy]

if you ask nicely she might give the ring back ...