Should a spouse be named in parent’s Will?
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Sounds like my ex-wife. If I were the OP that would worry me.
I love the honesty in here. My mom will leave what she wants to whoever she wants and I support her fully. Again, I’m in agreement that it should follow the blood line. That was how I was raised. My wife was wondering why she wasn’t named in it, which sparked a conversation between my wife and I. Our relationships with our in-laws are as if we’re their own, and I understand that most spouses don’t get along. I wanted to check my moral compass so I asked some guys at work. One said my wife should be named and three said no. I figured I ask on here to get to get different points of views because I figured most would feel like me and wanted to see.
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That sucks.
If you want to avoid stuff like what Outlaw99 went through, get a trust.
Will's can be challenged. A trust is nearly bulletproof. A trust bypasses the probate process and whatever is in the documents is the end story. About the only way a trust can be challenged is if someone attempts to claim the person who established the trust was not of sound mind. However you can beat that to the punch by having a notarized statement from a doctor or psychiatrist/psychologist addended to the trust stating they were of sound mind and not under duress at the time the trust was made.
The trust ensures no fighting, it divides up the property, assets, belongings and cash/bank accounts as the initiator wishes. That's it. It's done. If you don't like it. Too bad.
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Imagine your parents, at your request, name your wife in their wills.
Time passes. Like most normal, lazy people they don't update their wills.
Meanwhile, you and your wife split up like around half of marriages do. Don't worry, you meet your real soul mate and are happily remarried.
Your folks pass in a bizarre accident.
You are in grief as you, your current wife and your sibling head to the lawyer's office for the reading of the will. You enter the conference room. Guess who is already sitting at the head of the table?
Your Ex! So nice to see her again after all these years...
(Note: This is purely hypothetical. I'm sure you guys are solid.)
Time passes. Like most normal, lazy people they don't update their wills.
Meanwhile, you and your wife split up like around half of marriages do. Don't worry, you meet your real soul mate and are happily remarried.
Your folks pass in a bizarre accident.
You are in grief as you, your current wife and your sibling head to the lawyer's office for the reading of the will. You enter the conference room. Guess who is already sitting at the head of the table?
Your Ex! So nice to see her again after all these years...
(Note: This is purely hypothetical. I'm sure you guys are solid.)
That was exactly my first thought as well.
This was the point I made to my wife. I made another point of if she should get married again after my death. Naming a spouse muddies the water too much for me and creates an issue of spending more money to update a Will later on.
You should start a thread to keep track of such posts throughout the year.
Interesting thread.
My mom got remarried in the early 90s, and my step father has 3 kids from his first marriage. When my mother passed away in 1999, none of the step kids came to her funeral (they lived 30 minutes away at the time), and my step father has not spoken to any of them once since then. I have a feeling they will show up someday with their hands out.
I am very close to my step father. He's a great man.
My mom got remarried in the early 90s, and my step father has 3 kids from his first marriage. When my mother passed away in 1999, none of the step kids came to her funeral (they lived 30 minutes away at the time), and my step father has not spoken to any of them once since then. I have a feeling they will show up someday with their hands out.
I am very close to my step father. He's a great man.
You shouldnt be named, just for asking this question… lol.
In all seriousness, not even “blood line” “should be” named….
Your mom can leave it all to the pigeons, if she wants to…. It is HER will.
HER WILL.
My mom says the pigeons will just squander it because that's what pigeons do.
She suggests leaving it to the SPCA to do DNA tests to help reunite dogs that were sadly separated from their siblings at birth. That's what she's planning to do.
She suggests leaving it to the SPCA to do DNA tests to help reunite dogs that were sadly separated from their siblings at birth. That's what she's planning to do.
Shit when my parents die.. I’ll likely get debt.
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