Duane, I will be praying for your mom specifically. This is VERY hard for her. It is usually difficult for moms to give out tough love when it's needed. The hard thing is focusing on the future and realizing that decisions made today, even hard ones, can bring a very bright future. That family member I mentioned in my post above was told to leave the house and she was given some tough love by both her mom and dad. Today, 10 years later, she is a completely different person. Happily married with a wonderful daughter. No drugs. A good job. A good husband. And two very happy parents.