After a LOT of thought and consideration, my fiancé (been together 3 years total) and I have decided to separate. We were set to get married this April but she is moving out this week and it looks like we probably wont see each other at all anymore.
She has 2 kids with her ex husband..a 10 year old boy and a 4 year old girl while I have chosen not to have any kids. I am 33 and she is 27...
While the kids are sometimes great to be around, most of the time they just aren't (for me anyways) I have tried to make it work for a long time now but when we have them (2 days on, 2 days off and every other weekend) I found myself mostly miserable due to the chaos and everything that comes along with it..
She and I were always great together, especially when it was just us but when we had them it would put a major strain on both of us and we would argue about it sometimes. She wanted me to be at all these games, practices, etc etc etc. The kids also go to school in the next town over in the opposite direction from where I work. And I can understand her wanting that but that meant I didn't have time or peace in my life to do things I want to do and enjoy my hobbies like working on my cars or just drinking a few beers in my shop with my buddies...
Their dad is good to them and very involved in their life..
Part of me feels like an asshole but the other part of me says I have to do what makes me happy.
We are handling this peacefully so far but it still really sucks.
Good news is I have a good job and can afford my house on my own with no issues. I recently graduated with a mechanical engineering degree that I worked on for 4.5 years straight. I have a paid for Silverado and C6Z as well as a Datsun 240z project car (these things keep me happy lol) I guess I plan to focus on myself for a while and start back working out again and keep busy before I try to date again..
Its just a little scary because 99% of the people I know are married, have a kid or two, or both and I just don't think I'm cut out for that lifestyle. I also see married people getting divorced all the time:/
Anyone else been in a situation similar to mine?
Thanks for reading SVTP
She has 2 kids with her ex husband..a 10 year old boy and a 4 year old girl while I have chosen not to have any kids. I am 33 and she is 27...
While the kids are sometimes great to be around, most of the time they just aren't (for me anyways) I have tried to make it work for a long time now but when we have them (2 days on, 2 days off and every other weekend) I found myself mostly miserable due to the chaos and everything that comes along with it..
She and I were always great together, especially when it was just us but when we had them it would put a major strain on both of us and we would argue about it sometimes. She wanted me to be at all these games, practices, etc etc etc. The kids also go to school in the next town over in the opposite direction from where I work. And I can understand her wanting that but that meant I didn't have time or peace in my life to do things I want to do and enjoy my hobbies like working on my cars or just drinking a few beers in my shop with my buddies...
Their dad is good to them and very involved in their life..
Part of me feels like an asshole but the other part of me says I have to do what makes me happy.
We are handling this peacefully so far but it still really sucks.
Good news is I have a good job and can afford my house on my own with no issues. I recently graduated with a mechanical engineering degree that I worked on for 4.5 years straight. I have a paid for Silverado and C6Z as well as a Datsun 240z project car (these things keep me happy lol) I guess I plan to focus on myself for a while and start back working out again and keep busy before I try to date again..
Its just a little scary because 99% of the people I know are married, have a kid or two, or both and I just don't think I'm cut out for that lifestyle. I also see married people getting divorced all the time:/
Anyone else been in a situation similar to mine?
Thanks for reading SVTP