Ex Wives

[SVT-BansheeMan]

Even with zero issues with my marriage, I will still believe the few benefits don't out weigh the risk for the man.

The stories of child support from co workers (who were never married) are down right miserable. The mom can not work, be trash and still get a huge amount per child from the childs' dad.

 

[Bdubbs]

Even with zero issues with my marriage, I will still believe the few benefits don't out weigh the risk for the man.

The stories of child support from co workers (who were never married) are down right miserable. The mom can not work, be trash and still get a huge amount per child from the childs' dad.

I agree.

My wife said if we could do it all over again, she's not sure if she'd want to get married. She's a tax person.

We can be loyal, we can buy each other rings and she could change her last name if she wanted to. That marriage piece of paper doesn't mean squat to us really.

Keep in mind, I live a pretty simple life. 44 years old (today) zero kids, and zero wife drama.

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[MG0h3]

I agree.

My wife said if we could do it all over again, she's not sure if she'd want to get married. She's a tax person.

We can be loyal, we can buy each other rings and she could change her last name if she wanted to. That marriage piece of paper doesn't mean squat to us really.

Keep in mind, I live a pretty simple life. 44 years old (today) zero kids, and zero wife drama.

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Yep. It’s really a racket.

When you get divorced, it’s a business transaction. No discussion of love or feelings or anything.

What we fail to realize is that marriage is a business transaction as well.


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[Bdubbs]

Yep. It’s really a racket.

When you get divorced, it’s a business transaction. No discussion of love or feelings or anything.

What we fail to realize is that marriage is a business transaction as well.


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Absolutely correct on both sides.

And the crazy thing here. Not sure if it's a Minnesota thing? But just like child support, there is a such thing as adult support. So, being my wife's income is significantly higher than mine, if we got divorced I could file for this. Keep in mind we don't have any kids. I currently have a family member possibly trying to get this....

Talk about messed up.

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[SVT-BansheeMan]

My wife said if we could do it all over again, she's not sure if she'd want to get married. She's a tax person.

I didn't think about tax benefits.

 

[lOOKnGO]

After falling in lust with my first wife who was a gymnast and still coaches. I knocked her up, so I manned up and asked her to marry me at 20. I sold all my cars that included a new 84 SS Monte Carlo, 70 Corvette, and a 23 t bucket hotrod. Purchased and assumed a VA loan on a 70k home outside of DC fixed it up as she stayed home to raise what would be 2 boys in three years. I worked 6 to 7 days a week 12 to 14 hours a day to get us in a new upscale neighborhood that many players of the Redskins lived in. Newer Corvette in the garage, new Jeep Cherokee limited, 51 Ford f2 show truck, and work truck, boat, hunting and camping property, 2nd home at a ski resort, commercial rental property all in 5 years. Still working 12 hour days 5 days a week and then teaching snowboarding on the weekends during the winter. Enjoying the boat and parents condo on the river in the summer. She didn't work....didn't have to. The oldest kid at 5 wanted to take Karate only thing was, I caught the wife taking lessons from the instructor too. I confronted her with it and she left. She was 5 months pregnant. Left me with the two boys. Neighbors and family rallied around me to help with the boys so I could work. She eventually came back and I left the house till the baby was born, to see if the kid was mine or not. It was, so I spent 15k to see if therapy could help her, it didn't. I ended up getting cut throat lawyer after she tried to bash my head in with a baseball bat and broke my hand. She hired a lawyer that my dad's business gave college tuition to, I don't see how that wasn't a conflict of interest. I ended up with it all. Less 20k to her. She couldn't handle the boys so my hot AF girlfriend ten years younger then me and myself finished raising them. Ended up marrying that hot young girlfriend. She's been with my dumb ass for 26 years, married for 20. I would do it all over again if I end up with the same wife I have today.

 

[svtfocus2cobra]

I got married for the first time at in 2010 at age 37, so don't sweat it. Still married today.

I know, I always remind myself that anything can happen so hope is never lost. It's just having the same thing happen over and over is taxing and wears on you more than the time before. And I feel like the older you get the more you have to offer. Luckily I don't look like I have aged much so I'm at least holding onto my looks lol.

 

[_Snake_]

I know, I always remind myself that anything can happen so hope is never lost. It's just having the same thing happen over and over is taxing and wears on you more than the time before. And I feel like the older you get the more you have to offer. Luckily I don't look like I have aged much so I'm at least holding onto my looks lol.

Here's my take. I just watched a guy who is 50 years old and never been married (for whatever reason) scoop up a recently divorced, attractive, slightly younger woman who is making a ton of money. Dude is living the dream right now and he never had to pay Satan's tax. I don't think you could wipe the smile off of his face with a pressure washer.

 

[svtfocus2cobra]

Here's my take. I just watched a guy who is 50 years old and never been married (for whatever reason) scoop up a recently divorced, attractive, slightly younger woman who is making a ton of money. Dude is living the dream right now and he never had to pay Satan's tax. I don't think you could wipe the smile off his face with a pressure washer.

There's always that possibility, but the guy is going to be almost 70 by the time his kids graduate HS if he has any. I'm not too old yet to avoid that, but still...

 

[Fat Boss]

For a while I lived next door to this hot chick with two kids. She was getting $30k a month from her ex NHL ex husband. At that time another ex NHL guy, Bernie Nicholls was living with her.

 

[Blkkbgt]

Man you poor ****ers have been through some shit!

I know a guy who's wife ran off with his kid, moved to the other side of the country and left him with crippling debt.

Of course she hit him with child support which he paid unti the checks started getting returned. She disappeared and he couldn't find her or his kid for over a year. He saved every returned check just in case but was able to get the child support canceled because she had fallen off the map.

Sounds great right? Nope!

Dude ****ed up and only had it canceled in the state where she was last living but not the state it originated in, California.

This bit him in the ass hard about 18 years later! Yes 18 years! His kid was now 20.

Because he didn't also have the child canceled in California she was able to come after him for ALL of it plus interest! The state basically doesn't allow you to escape it, ever.

He ended up having to take out a massive loan and offer her a smaller lump sum. Luckily she was in a pinch because other people were after her for money.

Craziest child support case I've ever heard of.

 

[Bdubbs]

Man you poor ****ers have been through some shit!

I know a guy who's wife ran off with his kid, moved to the other side of the country and left him with crippling debt.

Of course she hit him with child support which he paid unti the checks started getting returned. She disappeared and he couldn't find her or his kid for over a year. He saved every returned check just in case but was able to get the child support canceled because she had fallen off the map.

Sounds great right? Nope!

Dude ****ed up and only had it canceled in the state where she was last living but not the state it originated in, California.

This bit him in the ass hard about 18 years later! Yes 18 years! His kid was now 20.

Because he didn't also have the child canceled in California she was able to come after him for ALL of it plus interest! The state basically doesn't allow you to escape it, ever.

He ended up having to take out a massive loan and offer her a smaller lump sum. Luckily she was in a pinch because other people were after her for money.

Craziest child support case I've ever heard of.

That's messed up. Another system that is beyond ****ed.

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[Blkkbgt]

That's messed up. Another system that is beyond ****ed.

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Tell me about it. Pretty sure he's still paying on that loan. The original amount California hit him with was close to 80k IIRC!

 

[MG0h3]

I know, I always remind myself that anything can happen so hope is never lost. It's just having the same thing happen over and over is taxing and wears on you more than the time before. And I feel like the older you get the more you have to offer. Luckily I don't look like I have aged much so I'm at least holding onto my looks lol.

Problem is you have a 78.32% chance of getting a lib up there


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[Bdubbs]

Tell me about it. Pretty sure he's still paying on that loan. The original amount California hit him with was close to 80k IIRC!

I can't even imagine.....

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[svtfocus2cobra]

Problem is you have a 78.32% chance of getting a lib up there


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That's probably the hardest thing honestly. You have to scour the dating sites to find a conservative Christian girl, and the chances of finding one you're compatible with and is attractive is even slimmer. I'm probably only going to be here a couple more years before I move. Not sure where yet though, but this next election will probably seal the deal. The new gun laws here are driving me mad.

 

[MG0h3]

That's probably the hardest thing honestly. You have to scour the dating sites to find a conservative Christian girl, and the chances of finding one you're compatible with and is attractive is even slimmer. I'm probably only going to be here a couple more years before I move. Not sure where yet though, but this next election will probably seal the deal. The new gun laws here are driving me mad.

East of the cascades gets better. Idaho too

You have family in the area so it would be nice be close


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[03Sssnake]

 

[svtfocus2cobra]

East of the cascades gets better. Idaho too

You have family in the area so it would be nice be close


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I do like Idaho fir that reason but it has become equally as expensive it seems in Coeur d'Alene and the other bigger cities. Got to look at it closer though.

 

[Black Gold 380R]

Man, I love this thread! Not because of all the BS everyone has been through, but it proves to me that most men get screwed in divorces and for some reason society takes pity on women. Like women are some sort of victim in a marriage.

Like in Nicks case @13COBRA . How the hell is Nick's wife entitled to the equity from the sale of a house he owned prior to getting married? That makes absolutely no sense. Now, the house they bought together and lived in as a married couple, okay. Any equity from the sale of that property should be split 50/50 (unless Nick used his equity from the sale of his previous house as payment for the new property. Then the % of the split should be equally to each's contribution to the down payment. Simple).

I know I was lucky in my divorce, but I'm betting if I ever get divorced again, this time around I would be taken to the cleaners. Why? Because I said I do? Because she's a house wife? We haven't had any kids together. I helped raise her kids from a previous marriage that were 1 and 5 when I met her. So, why should I have to keep paying? I do not know, but the law, lawyers and society thinks I should. BS.

If a man is caught cheating they want to blame him and take everything from him in a divorce. If a woman is caught cheating they still blame the man (because it's the mans fault she cheated) and want to take everything from him in the divorce. The law is callous when passing judgment.

Society and their view of things is so jaded by what may have transpired to women in the 50's and 60's that we men are still paying for it today.

Hopefully it changes one day and judgement will be based on what's right and fair and not on a blanket statement of 50/50 that is more like 75/25 when it's all said and done.

Bottom line.....Do not enter into the business contract of marriage. Men end up on the losing side most of the time.