I met a really nice and very pretty Italian girl and have been on a few dates with her. We really hit it off, found out we have a lot in common interests, etc. I'm going to be 33 in a few months, she's 25 and has her shit together; teaches deaf kids, going for her Masters, does a lot for Wounded Warriors, Soldiers' Angels, donates her hair, etc.; like I said, a really nice girl.
After our first two dates I tried kissing her and was denied saying he doesn't kiss on the first date and takes things slow. I wasn't really phased by it as because it showed me she had values, and she still showed interest after both dates.
Come Friday night we go to a baseball game and had another great time together. I walk her to her car and give her a hug, and at this point I was thinking I'll let her kiss me. Then she starts telling me the reason she doesn't kiss is because she has herpes. My heart about sank and was completely in shock not knowing what to say because she doesn't look nor seem like someone who'd have it. After her talk she said I understand if you don't want to see me again, etc. We hugged again and she left.
We have talked since then on a regular basis, I have done a lot of reading about, it seems the social stigma is the worst part, and talked to her about how she got it. Apparently she got it 3 years ago after fooling around with a guy, no intercourse and she was a virgin at the time, and she didn't know he had it until after the fact when he said he was on medication to prevent outbreaks. Since then she's had sex with just (1) guy who was her boyfriend of 1.5 years. So she's not a slut.
I told her I'd like to go out again and continue to see where things go and take it from there. I've researched and the transmission rate while on antiviral medication is roughly 2%. I've read there are couples who've been together for many years and never transmit it even with unprotected sex. Yes, it's a yuge decision but if I can see a future with her, the juice may be worth the squeeze.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? Has it worked out? Any serious advice?
After our first two dates I tried kissing her and was denied saying he doesn't kiss on the first date and takes things slow. I wasn't really phased by it as because it showed me she had values, and she still showed interest after both dates.
Come Friday night we go to a baseball game and had another great time together. I walk her to her car and give her a hug, and at this point I was thinking I'll let her kiss me. Then she starts telling me the reason she doesn't kiss is because she has herpes. My heart about sank and was completely in shock not knowing what to say because she doesn't look nor seem like someone who'd have it. After her talk she said I understand if you don't want to see me again, etc. We hugged again and she left.
We have talked since then on a regular basis, I have done a lot of reading about, it seems the social stigma is the worst part, and talked to her about how she got it. Apparently she got it 3 years ago after fooling around with a guy, no intercourse and she was a virgin at the time, and she didn't know he had it until after the fact when he said he was on medication to prevent outbreaks. Since then she's had sex with just (1) guy who was her boyfriend of 1.5 years. So she's not a slut.
I told her I'd like to go out again and continue to see where things go and take it from there. I've researched and the transmission rate while on antiviral medication is roughly 2%. I've read there are couples who've been together for many years and never transmit it even with unprotected sex. Yes, it's a yuge decision but if I can see a future with her, the juice may be worth the squeeze.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? Has it worked out? Any serious advice?
