Cliffs: People suck.
I'm far from a psychologist or anything of the sort...but I've come to the conclusion that there are two types of people in the world in regards to dealing with life's every day graces and hurdles.
1.) Someone who believes they control 99% of their own destiny. If good stuff happens to them, great. However if bad stuff happens, before getting upset, they decide if it's controllable or not. If whatever happens is outside their realm of control, they nut up and deal with it; if they can control it, they take the necessary steps to correct it.
2.) Someone who believes that good/bad/indifferent is beyond their control (whether it truly is or not) and still want to bitch and complain about it. These people let bad things consume their lives and it begins to pile up and spiral out of control.
I'm very much a #1 kind of person. If something bad happens that I can't control, it sucks, but I move on and deal with it because I don't have another choice. If I can control it, I'll do my best to either correct the current issue or make sure it doesn't happen again.
Someone very close to be is the 2nd person. Has a hard time dealing with anything negative happening to them. It consumes them for days, things pile up, worsen their mood, and it's just overall an unhealthy way of going about life (in my opinion).
I've spoken to this person on numerous occasions about it. First I tried to offer help and alternative methods of handling situations, only to get shut down. Then I tried to just listen, but it's hard to listen to someone complain about what's happening to them when they won't help themselves. Now I'm to the point of just not wanting to hear about it at all.
While I understand not talking about issues and allowing it to bottle up, isn't going to fix anything; I just feel like I don't have the time, patience, or energy level to keep exhausting myself listening to their 'problems'. I'm a very happy person and like to live my life like that, but it's hard to be in a good mood after talking to someone that constantly refuses to help them self, and is always complaining about life's shortcomings. I probably take it more personal than I should, but I'm a 'fixer' so it's hard not to.
I guess this whole BS rant is just an easy way for me to get it out of my head. Obviously SVTP has it's own way of handling things, so I put my thick skin on today.
I'm far from a psychologist or anything of the sort...but I've come to the conclusion that there are two types of people in the world in regards to dealing with life's every day graces and hurdles.
1.) Someone who believes they control 99% of their own destiny. If good stuff happens to them, great. However if bad stuff happens, before getting upset, they decide if it's controllable or not. If whatever happens is outside their realm of control, they nut up and deal with it; if they can control it, they take the necessary steps to correct it.
2.) Someone who believes that good/bad/indifferent is beyond their control (whether it truly is or not) and still want to bitch and complain about it. These people let bad things consume their lives and it begins to pile up and spiral out of control.
I'm very much a #1 kind of person. If something bad happens that I can't control, it sucks, but I move on and deal with it because I don't have another choice. If I can control it, I'll do my best to either correct the current issue or make sure it doesn't happen again.
Someone very close to be is the 2nd person. Has a hard time dealing with anything negative happening to them. It consumes them for days, things pile up, worsen their mood, and it's just overall an unhealthy way of going about life (in my opinion).
I've spoken to this person on numerous occasions about it. First I tried to offer help and alternative methods of handling situations, only to get shut down. Then I tried to just listen, but it's hard to listen to someone complain about what's happening to them when they won't help themselves. Now I'm to the point of just not wanting to hear about it at all.
While I understand not talking about issues and allowing it to bottle up, isn't going to fix anything; I just feel like I don't have the time, patience, or energy level to keep exhausting myself listening to their 'problems'. I'm a very happy person and like to live my life like that, but it's hard to be in a good mood after talking to someone that constantly refuses to help them self, and is always complaining about life's shortcomings. I probably take it more personal than I should, but I'm a 'fixer' so it's hard not to.
I guess this whole BS rant is just an easy way for me to get it out of my head. Obviously SVTP has it's own way of handling things, so I put my thick skin on today.
