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your feelings on death, long
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<blockquote data-quote="terrible one" data-source="post: 11550723" data-attributes="member: 10282"><p>Well as a hospice volunteer I figure I can say some words that may or may not help, but hopefully you can take what you need from it.</p><p></p><p>First, I would like to say that I am sorry for the losses you are going through right now. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you.</p><p></p><p>Second, it is OK to be sad right now. You have obviously gone through quite a lot in the last year. If you don't feel like moving on or celebrating their lives at this time there is nothing wrong with that. You need to mourn at your own speed. Only you know how long that takes. For some people it's years before they can fully accept the death of a loved one. </p><p></p><p>That person was special to you and no one else knows that relationship like you do. Grieving takes time. There will be good days and there will be bad days. Focus on your needs right now. If you need to stay home and not talk to anyone because you are sad that is OK. You shouldn't feel guilty for the way you mourn someone special to you. </p><p></p><p>You also shouldn't feel guilty for going out and enjoying yourself. Life does go on although at the moment it may not feel like it. If you begin to have trouble with daily functions i.e. sleeping, eating, etc. that persists for awhile you may need to talk to someone about it. Again that is up to you. A lot of people are not ready to fully digest all the sadness they have been given. If you are not ready that is OK too. </p><p></p><p>No one can say why so many bad things happen at once to certain people. But right now you don't need to hear stories about other people having experienced grief and loss, you need to let other people hear about your present grief and sadness. So if you are ready to talk to friends, relatives, a psychiatrist then talk about your loved ones that died. Remembering them and conveying your present feelings and emotions is appropriate. Even if that is anger, depression, or resentment towards them. </p><p></p><p>I hope this helps. :burnout:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="terrible one, post: 11550723, member: 10282"] Well as a hospice volunteer I figure I can say some words that may or may not help, but hopefully you can take what you need from it. First, I would like to say that I am sorry for the losses you are going through right now. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you. Second, it is OK to be sad right now. You have obviously gone through quite a lot in the last year. If you don't feel like moving on or celebrating their lives at this time there is nothing wrong with that. You need to mourn at your own speed. Only you know how long that takes. For some people it's years before they can fully accept the death of a loved one. That person was special to you and no one else knows that relationship like you do. Grieving takes time. There will be good days and there will be bad days. Focus on your needs right now. If you need to stay home and not talk to anyone because you are sad that is OK. You shouldn't feel guilty for the way you mourn someone special to you. You also shouldn't feel guilty for going out and enjoying yourself. Life does go on although at the moment it may not feel like it. If you begin to have trouble with daily functions i.e. sleeping, eating, etc. that persists for awhile you may need to talk to someone about it. Again that is up to you. A lot of people are not ready to fully digest all the sadness they have been given. If you are not ready that is OK too. No one can say why so many bad things happen at once to certain people. But right now you don't need to hear stories about other people having experienced grief and loss, you need to let other people hear about your present grief and sadness. So if you are ready to talk to friends, relatives, a psychiatrist then talk about your loved ones that died. Remembering them and conveying your present feelings and emotions is appropriate. Even if that is anger, depression, or resentment towards them. I hope this helps. :burnout: [/QUOTE]
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