I’ve got the cotter-pin and nut off but cant seem to get it to fall out of the socket. The instructions I have say to hammer on the top of the bolt after the nut is removed. I tried that but don’t want to get to crazy with beating in it.
If a hammer and a pickle fork look like the right tools for the job, you really need to rethink what you're doing. Like medicine, the first rule of auto repair is do no damage.