I've been a bit torn lately. I have a 14 y/o daughter who is in her first year of high school and (getting used to the new environment). Her school work has been exceptional for the most part minus 2 classes. I'm pretty strict when it comes to grades and life accomplishments. I reward well for doing well. Pretty straightforward I'd think.
My household is not religious. I have nothing against those that are. My mom is constantly trying to get me back into church, but due to some belief differences I don't go. My daughter on the other hand has found a new interest in church. She found a plae that she likes and has shown considerable interest in going each week. They have a youth organized version that she interested in. I'm all for her showing interest however I am concerned with her 2 classes she is not doing so well in. She is not failing either one but is just a sneeze away unfortunately. She has been asking me each week to go these church events, but because I know she enjoys them I've denied her until she gets her grades up. She tried to tell me yesterday that she thinks it may help by her going. I think this is what stumped me in my actions that I've been taking. No offense to those that are religious, but I'd rather my daughter rely on her confidence and personal skill to accel in school rather than use religion as a crutch. I'm not quite sure how to portray that to her and not discourage her from religion as well as keep her confidence in real life in positive light.
Any insight would be great. I tried to go over my writing to check for errors but things pop into my head and half thoughts come out mid sentence. Sorry about that. lol.
I'm aware this is a critical stage in her life as well. 3 more years and real life decisions have real life effects on ones self. I just want to do as much as I can to prepare her.
Did I even ask a question?? If not, here it is:
Am I handling this incorrectly? What should I be focussing on?
Thank you.
My household is not religious. I have nothing against those that are. My mom is constantly trying to get me back into church, but due to some belief differences I don't go. My daughter on the other hand has found a new interest in church. She found a plae that she likes and has shown considerable interest in going each week. They have a youth organized version that she interested in. I'm all for her showing interest however I am concerned with her 2 classes she is not doing so well in. She is not failing either one but is just a sneeze away unfortunately. She has been asking me each week to go these church events, but because I know she enjoys them I've denied her until she gets her grades up. She tried to tell me yesterday that she thinks it may help by her going. I think this is what stumped me in my actions that I've been taking. No offense to those that are religious, but I'd rather my daughter rely on her confidence and personal skill to accel in school rather than use religion as a crutch. I'm not quite sure how to portray that to her and not discourage her from religion as well as keep her confidence in real life in positive light.
Any insight would be great. I tried to go over my writing to check for errors but things pop into my head and half thoughts come out mid sentence. Sorry about that. lol.
I'm aware this is a critical stage in her life as well. 3 more years and real life decisions have real life effects on ones self. I just want to do as much as I can to prepare her.
Did I even ask a question?? If not, here it is:
Am I handling this incorrectly? What should I be focussing on?
Thank you.