OK. So me and the wife(not really) but been together 11 years 2 weeks ago. Things been kinda up and down and was wanting to fix our issues. U know. New pool to help us/me stay home and spend more time alone. My issue was I like drinking with my brother and family so we was always around them and she couldnt drink so we made it home safe. Bought a older house vs our brand new house so we can do projects together. Wanted to build here the kitchen she always wanted. I've been sitting on about 15k in safe and what I thought was a lot in the bank account.
Made the mistake (I know know) years ago and let her control the funds. So last week was bored and wanted to get more involved to help me plan projects with accordance to bank account and time. I hate interest and if I don't pay cash I use my card with a set amount of interest free time .
What I found last week has gotten me very upset and lost got what to do. I found some bills (credit cards) that was not supposed to exists. I sold of my 89 charged coupe to pay all the bills off 2.5 years ago and drove a crap 88 yota truck. Well she decided to not pay some some off and keep putting things on it without telling me. I'm (were)over 6k in credit cards with interest being just under the monthly amount she had been paying while still adding more to the card. Our banks have been joined since 9 years.
What kills me most is now I can't do these upgrades . It affects her and me as well. Everything is original 1981 stuff in house. Also the fact she can't (or want ) tell me where or what it went on. Her words are "I don't know".
I feel like I've lost some trust with this.
Iduno..
Cliffs..
--Thought I was debt free..sold a lot of toys to be that way..
--2.5 years later found out the money I thought was used to fix debt has vanished.
--More debt was made when she got another card. (Unknown what she spent it on)
--Was told she don't know where it was spent. The money I gave her in lump(8k)
--The hole time planning remodel nothing was said. (Last 3 months) and I went over our monthly budget vs monthly income many times.
--Before y'all say .I should have had more part. Yes I should have ..But she was a banker and I was dumb with money before.
Sorry. Needed some where to vent.
Made the mistake (I know know) years ago and let her control the funds. So last week was bored and wanted to get more involved to help me plan projects with accordance to bank account and time. I hate interest and if I don't pay cash I use my card with a set amount of interest free time .
What I found last week has gotten me very upset and lost got what to do. I found some bills (credit cards) that was not supposed to exists. I sold of my 89 charged coupe to pay all the bills off 2.5 years ago and drove a crap 88 yota truck. Well she decided to not pay some some off and keep putting things on it without telling me. I'm (were)over 6k in credit cards with interest being just under the monthly amount she had been paying while still adding more to the card. Our banks have been joined since 9 years.
What kills me most is now I can't do these upgrades . It affects her and me as well. Everything is original 1981 stuff in house. Also the fact she can't (or want ) tell me where or what it went on. Her words are "I don't know".
I feel like I've lost some trust with this.
Iduno..
Cliffs..
--Thought I was debt free..sold a lot of toys to be that way..
--2.5 years later found out the money I thought was used to fix debt has vanished.
--More debt was made when she got another card. (Unknown what she spent it on)
--Was told she don't know where it was spent. The money I gave her in lump(8k)
--The hole time planning remodel nothing was said. (Last 3 months) and I went over our monthly budget vs monthly income many times.
--Before y'all say .I should have had more part. Yes I should have ..But she was a banker and I was dumb with money before.
Sorry. Needed some where to vent.