How much should a bachelor party pp be?

[mcaligiuri]

So my buddy is getting married and its bachelor party time. His best man is looking to do a destination party to Vegas or cancun. I live in NY so airfare is a tad costly. Thing is the best man said its gonna be $1000.00 a person to cover for the groom. While I wanna give my buddy a good time that is a lot for me. My mortgage is $2300 a month (average for ny so don't think I'm loaded) and I bring in $2500 a month so I'm just getting by. I have two kids and a wife who works so past couple years have been rough due to not finding a high paying job. I was going to cash in at the end of the year my sick and personal time which is $700 to help pay for this. Am I being unreasonable if I decline but still offer $600 towards the party. Opinions? Way I see it the tux-300, bridal shower gift-200, wedding gift 500 plus the bachelor party that's almost $2000.00 this is nuts.

 

[2KBlackGT]

I'd decline to go to the bachelor party and just attend the wedding. Are you a groomsman?

 

[jconnor3]

Yea, that's ridiculous man. I wouldn't offer up the $600 if you can't go either. Maybe figure out where they are staying and send a couple bottles of champagne or bourbon, but I wouldn't give my best friend $600 just to help out with travel costs. I'd tell your party planner dude he's crazy and pick another option. Whether you had the extra money or not, thats WAY to much to kick to just help cover costs for the groom.

 

[04SVT_COBRA]

A true friend would understand your situation and make it work.

 

[Screw-Rice]

If you're tight on funds, just tell them you can't do it. I wouldn't let any friend contribute $1 if things aren't going well for them. Just say you can't and use that money for your family. A real friend will understand.

 

[mcaligiuri]

Yeah I'm a groomsman. He was the best man at my wedding. We had a one night trip to Atlantic city and It wasn't over the top. Probably each person spent $500 max. Everyone else is in their late 20's early 30's but no one has kids and some still live at home. So when I say anything with babysitting or expense they don't get my situation

 

[lobra97]

like they said friends will understand

 

[Blk04L]

If you're tight on funds, just tell them you can't do it. I wouldn't let any friend contribute $1 if things aren't going well for them. Just say you can't and use that money for your family. A real friend will understand.

+1.

Dropping 1k+ for a bachelor party is a lot, especially when things are tight.

Wow, $500 for a wedding gift... that's high too.

 

[coposrv]

A true friend would understand your situation and make it work.

Exactly this. My close friends and I have done a few trips this year. One of our friends doesn't have a ton of money. We all made it work.


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[Gary101386]

Way I see it the tux-300, bridal shower gift-200, wedding gift 500 plus the bachelor party that's almost $2000.00 this is nuts.

If I get married can I invite you to my wedding? $500 gift?

I have stood up in several weddings and Tux is $125-$175. Shower gift is like $40-$60 and a wedding gift is like $100-150 So $265-$385 and some people that stand up in weddings don't even give a gift anyhow as they have to rent a tux.

The 2 Bachelor Parties I threw, one was $60 a person, and the other was like $45 a person and everyone had a great time!

I wouldn't spend that much money on a bachelor party, nor expect anyone else to for me. I especially wouldn't send any money if you don't go, that's just ridiculous...

 

[blk02edge]

Yea that's far too expensive if you have a family to worry about. If you were like them still single and living at home I could understand. Just buy a decent wedding gift

 

[Blown 89]

Even if funds aren't tight $600 or $1,000 it way too much. I get buying him dinner and drinks but if he wants to go to Vegas he needs to pay his own way.

The best bachelor parties I've ever been too were the cheapest and were clean fun without anyone getting so hammered that it threatened the wedding before it even happened. There's no need to spend that kind of money out of other people's wallets. The groomsmen putting this together should be more considerate of everybody else's money.

 

[HISSMAN]

You need someone better skilled to plan your trip to Vegas. If you do it right, you get get there for not much more than air fare. Shows and what not are a different story, but there are always deals.

 

[Just_A_GT]

If the groom wants to go to Vegas for his bachelor party tell him to pay for himself. I'm surprised any of the guys are agreeing to this.

 

[TOPLESS_SVT]

I"ve had to miss destination weddings due to the cost, last one was 2000 a person to some resort that I couldn't pronounce.

If your making an effort to travel to them, they should help make it affordable for you to join
cause in all reality you don't wanna miss one of the "boys" bachelor parties

 

[R.D.P.]

Yeah, that's crazy. Suggest that big casino it Ct or something. I know Atlantic City is supposed to be a bit of a shit hole these days but seems to me like still a good place to having a good party

 

[HISSMAN]

First site to come up on Google.

http://vegaspartyvip.com/bachelor-party-packages/

 

[Mpoitrast87]

Stuff like this drives me nuts. Not so much a bachelor party, but a wedding in another country. You want to have a fancy wedding in Italy and expect your guests to pay? **** that. You're payin for me to go if you want me there.

 

[nofire]

If you can't afford it, then you can't afford it. Just be upfront with them about it and they'll probably try to make it work for you.

 

[13COBRA]

^ +1

If it were me, I'd skip out and just send some boos or an escort or two to the hotel.