Kind of long, but please read and input if you can. Me and the fiance are going to marry this year (August). Here's the thing. Cost. Her family does not have the money to finance a wedding. Her peice fo crap father left her mom when she was 1, leaving 3 kids to a Taiwanese mother who could barely speak English, so it's just her mom. No money there. I love my girl, and she wants something nice, but not over the top as it gets expensive. Can't ask my family because they are shelling out $30K for my sister's in April. So that leaves me and her as the cost suppliers. I have 2 condos, 2 cars (bought her an 06 F-150 3 months ago), so I really don't want to put myself into too much debt with an elaborate wedding.
I have enough in my savings to do something nice, but I like to keep enough away for emergencies. She deserves the best, but I just do not see the rationale of putting ourselves in debt as we start our new life. I hate how some people are so critical of weddings, and they don't even shell out a dime. Complain of food, beverage, ambiance, and even the attire. I feel uneasy draining my accounts for the potential ungrateful bastard to criticize our happy day, to my face or not. Weddings have come to the point that they are almost for the guests, and not the bride and groom. You become overwhelmed with stress, deadlines, potiential drunk idiots who complain that they have to pay for their booze, so you in turn shell out another two grand for an open bar, and so on.
To some of you, I may sound cheap, but my reasoning to my fiance is I am more excited about the new life, not the day. Before we met I purchased my home, and an investment property, so our dwelling is secure. We have new, safe vehicles (F-150, Montego), and we have savings. I think we are off to a great start, better than some, even though our wedding won't be as cool. I'm thinking Vegas. Ideas?
I have enough in my savings to do something nice, but I like to keep enough away for emergencies. She deserves the best, but I just do not see the rationale of putting ourselves in debt as we start our new life. I hate how some people are so critical of weddings, and they don't even shell out a dime. Complain of food, beverage, ambiance, and even the attire. I feel uneasy draining my accounts for the potential ungrateful bastard to criticize our happy day, to my face or not. Weddings have come to the point that they are almost for the guests, and not the bride and groom. You become overwhelmed with stress, deadlines, potiential drunk idiots who complain that they have to pay for their booze, so you in turn shell out another two grand for an open bar, and so on.
To some of you, I may sound cheap, but my reasoning to my fiance is I am more excited about the new life, not the day. Before we met I purchased my home, and an investment property, so our dwelling is secure. We have new, safe vehicles (F-150, Montego), and we have savings. I think we are off to a great start, better than some, even though our wedding won't be as cool. I'm thinking Vegas. Ideas?
