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Encourage parents to consider brother intellect disorder...
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<blockquote data-quote="ElscottHavoc" data-source="post: 14554875" data-attributes="member: 93145"><p>I know they're all adults and its not that I'm incapable of getting along with my life. I mean, it isnt like I'm failing to succeed or incapable of leaving them to live their lives while I live mine, its just that with the holidays coming up I'm going to be heading to their house and its going to ignite that fire within me that is aggravated by the situation as a whole. </p><p></p><p>So on one hand, I'm going to get frustrated by my brother as a result of his stubbornness and such and desperately want to give him the man to man talk about shaping up and on the other hand I've just been wondering if instead of being frustrated and giving him hard love I instead need to be patient and approach the situation differently.</p><p></p><p>I mean, sure, I should probably let things be as they are from one perspective, but at the same time I can't let myself watch someone abuse the system or go without the help they need. And of course, my parents can make their own choices, but I'm also quite aware of how we could somewhat subconciously belive our children are without fault and I could see how it could be possible that they might be ignorant to the fact he needs some help - be it therapy, tutoring, etc. </p><p></p><p>Absolutely, some parts of his personality are completely lazy. Leaving pizza on his bedroom floor for days is lazy. Calling in to work sick a lot is lazy. Having mommy clean up after him and pay his bills is lazy. But drawing on walls at 18 years old? Collecting pictures of my ex-girlfriends in a secret lock box? Rewatching family videos on repeat for hours on end late into the night? That's not just laziness...</p><p></p><p>But then, even if he was diagnosed -what then? Perhaps as it has been mentioned, I'm still stuck watching the samr behaviors only now I can say "I told you so" - what good does that do? Maybe getting him some therapy to deal with the emotional stresses at the bottom of it...I dont know what I'm really looking to achieve.</p><p></p><p>Anyways, thanks for everyone chiming in. It was nice jut writing this down and telling someone else what's been going on in my head this afternoon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ElscottHavoc, post: 14554875, member: 93145"] I know they're all adults and its not that I'm incapable of getting along with my life. I mean, it isnt like I'm failing to succeed or incapable of leaving them to live their lives while I live mine, its just that with the holidays coming up I'm going to be heading to their house and its going to ignite that fire within me that is aggravated by the situation as a whole. So on one hand, I'm going to get frustrated by my brother as a result of his stubbornness and such and desperately want to give him the man to man talk about shaping up and on the other hand I've just been wondering if instead of being frustrated and giving him hard love I instead need to be patient and approach the situation differently. I mean, sure, I should probably let things be as they are from one perspective, but at the same time I can't let myself watch someone abuse the system or go without the help they need. And of course, my parents can make their own choices, but I'm also quite aware of how we could somewhat subconciously belive our children are without fault and I could see how it could be possible that they might be ignorant to the fact he needs some help - be it therapy, tutoring, etc. Absolutely, some parts of his personality are completely lazy. Leaving pizza on his bedroom floor for days is lazy. Calling in to work sick a lot is lazy. Having mommy clean up after him and pay his bills is lazy. But drawing on walls at 18 years old? Collecting pictures of my ex-girlfriends in a secret lock box? Rewatching family videos on repeat for hours on end late into the night? That's not just laziness... But then, even if he was diagnosed -what then? Perhaps as it has been mentioned, I'm still stuck watching the samr behaviors only now I can say "I told you so" - what good does that do? Maybe getting him some therapy to deal with the emotional stresses at the bottom of it...I dont know what I'm really looking to achieve. Anyways, thanks for everyone chiming in. It was nice jut writing this down and telling someone else what's been going on in my head this afternoon. [/QUOTE]
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