ok so like the title says i'm loking to buy my first handgun. it's going to be mostly a target/home protection gun so i'm not really planning to carry it. i will mostly be the only one to shoot it but my fiance may some (probably not much). i really like the 1911 but i am just wondering if a .45 may be too much? (i've never shot one so i don't know.) my dad said the last time he shot a .45 it had too much recoil to be fun to shoot. i really have no clue what is good/bad and i know there are some on this site that know a lot about firearms so any input is greatly appreciated! also please add any recommendations for models, calibers, etc....