Sounds like my ex wife. Get to steppin
Unless you're doing something dumb like accidently addressing your girlfriend by your ex-wife's name, I'd say your girlfriend is better off not speaking about your ex at all. Do you ever talk about her ex? If so, stop.I told my current girlfriend not to talk shit about my ex wife (no kids involved). Am I sticking up for my ex wife?
I told my current girlfriend not to talk shit about my ex wife (no kids involved). Am I sticking up for my ex wife?
tell her to grow up and act her age!
It's to the point where I gave into her request to look through my email and messages and when she didn't find anything she said I could have deleted them. I didn't.
I think we're making assumptions here.
nope no assuption here.... been there before with the same type of chic.
some ppl jus wanna run their mouth about anything and everything and rarely have anything good to say about anyone and talking shit about someones EX is childish and immature so yea she needs to grow up!
Thanks for the replies. The back story is me and my ex wife were together for 10 years total, married for the last 3. Divorce was settled Aug. 2015. We had a rough last final years that ended after a year of counseling (All through 2014) and her maintaining a side relationship with one of her coworkers (I knew about this at the time, it was all laid out in counseling and we were still supposed to try to heal our relationship since she claimed depression. This was part of her healing.) After 6 months she stopped going to counseling as she didn't like how it was going (I kept going) and I slowly went into a depressive mental state in December 2014. That is when I decided divorce was my only option and to go back with her would unfair to myself. We filed together at the court Feb 2015 with not too much conflict. The divorce should have taken 90 days, although a whirlwind of events extended it to 7 months. She held on, I still let go. She took her sweet ass time moving out of my house (I purchased by myself years prior to the marriage) and I needed to get out of the house and meet people. It was a total nightmare and she held on so strongly still she began taking (and abusing 3 times) bipolar/depression pills and never accepting the divorce. The process of getting everything transferred to her and completely split and away from the house was a disaster. She scared a few girls away from me by coming back to the house or getting their phone numbers after gaining access to my phone or email.
The sporatic messages, emails, and phone calls didn't really stop until a few months ago (she went through waves of trying to contact me again) and she never changed her address so her mail still comes here. That's been a slow process too but it's manageable. I have every number and email of hers blocked but there is no guarantee she can't get another and try to contact me. I just block those too if they come in and don't respond. Typically the voice mails in 2016 were "Hey its me, could you give me a call when you get a chance. Thanks".
My feelings... I stopped wanting a relationship with her when I filed. I honestly felt bad for her which is why I put up trying to work it out even if she was depressed and dating someone else. I didn't have the nuts to end it many times and leave her be in life but depression came on strong to me and that's when I knew it was over. My ex wife treated me like total trash looking back on all of it and every once in a while she will come up in a conversation with my current girlfriend, whether it be a short story or question she has. She has mentioned the same with her exes too which I'm okay with. My GF moved into my house early this year. I have gutted and replaced a lot of things in the house before, during, and after she moved in. She sometimes brings up things about my ex such as her style (house decorations and paint colors when we first met) or that she was cheap. What provoked this thread was yesterday she looked up some candle holders online for the house. I laughed and said we probably tossed out that identical set. She said, "weren't they from your wedding? They were probably cheap". Now this isn't the first time she's taken a stab at my ex and I usually brush it off but I apparently got under her skin when I asked why she thinks they were cheap because they were from my wedding or from her? That led to hours of back and forth on this and other events and she believes I'm sticking up for my ex wife while I believe I'm just getting her story straight and true. She is 99% ready to break up with me now after a year of being together over this saying how I am sticking up for her. I simply told her to respect my wishes and #1 Not bring her up anymore and #2 Not trash talk her. If she wants to ask questions about her and learn and speak the truth I'm okay with that. But to make some bold claims with no backing, I don't agree with it and it bothers me that it's not a true statement. She takes this 100% as I still have feelings for her and she is ready to jump ship and move out as she does not understand how I can care that much about her making a a comment about my ex.
Back story on current gf relationship is we had some trouble early on when I was coming out of the dating scene (and not long before a marriage) with girls texting me. The trouble ones were the ones I've known for 10 - 20 years but I did get those to stop last year. I believe this is now all being considered in her decision to want to leave now.
If it matters, I just turned 32 and she is 29.
Thoughts?
My wife and I argue about when the pasta is finished cooking. She likes it more al dente and I prefer it just ever so slightly over cooked. We have come to blows over this issue.
My wife and I argue about when the pasta is finished cooking. She likes it more al dente and I prefer it just ever so slightly over cooked. We have come to blows over this issue.
I'm going to need cliffs and pics to make any decision.
LOL. My exwife was a loon. Lasted all of year. Every now and then she'll send me a feeler if I want to be friends..(linkedin/facebook). **** that nonsense. There is a reason we aren't together. So I wouldn't take up for her.
Cliffs are in my OP. The rest are the details for those daring enough to delve into the relationship.
I don't want to post pics in this thread although she is a 10/10. Beauty doesn't make up for situations like this though!