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Thinking about life as you get older?
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<blockquote data-quote="IA Shelby" data-source="post: 16246006" data-attributes="member: 122099"><p>Most of the replies seem to imply this happiness decision is a binary switch. Kill it financially and have family time suffer or be all in on the family and accept the financial downside.</p><p></p><p>I don’t believe this to be true in many situations. I have been fortunate to do well in my career that has required significant investment of time. I also spend a great deal of time with my family. I do agree that time is finite and choices need to be made which is why I have dropped many of my hobbies that I used to get involved in. I don’t play golf anymore because that takes 6 hrs away from the family on the weekends. </p><p></p><p>The other thing is we all have different situations. I have two children with special needs. I needed to make a strong income to allow my wife to be able to stay home with them. I also need to make sure we have considerable wealth accumulated so that after my wife and I die, there will be substantial funds to take care of them for the rest of their lives. I am doing the best job I can to balance all of the family needs and I don’t feel guilty about it. I have personally sacrificed many of the fun things I used to like to do. That is the way it should be. Responsibility as a father to take care of your family trumps personal wants and desires. I get up early in the AM when they are sleeping to get a start on the day and try to be home by 6-6:30. Spend the rest of the night with them. Do I miss out on watching “The walking dead” - yep. Do I care - nope!</p><p></p><p>My wife and I still allow for some fun expenditures. Travel, cars, etc... That is to keep us sane as well. You can’t help others if you are in a bad spot as well.</p><p></p><p>To all the family members trying to make it work, my hats off to you. Everybody’s situation is a bit different.</p><p></p><p>To the OP - you have made your decision. Now go make the most of it and don’t look back. Never question it and you will likely find the balance that you need.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="IA Shelby, post: 16246006, member: 122099"] Most of the replies seem to imply this happiness decision is a binary switch. Kill it financially and have family time suffer or be all in on the family and accept the financial downside. I don’t believe this to be true in many situations. I have been fortunate to do well in my career that has required significant investment of time. I also spend a great deal of time with my family. I do agree that time is finite and choices need to be made which is why I have dropped many of my hobbies that I used to get involved in. I don’t play golf anymore because that takes 6 hrs away from the family on the weekends. The other thing is we all have different situations. I have two children with special needs. I needed to make a strong income to allow my wife to be able to stay home with them. I also need to make sure we have considerable wealth accumulated so that after my wife and I die, there will be substantial funds to take care of them for the rest of their lives. I am doing the best job I can to balance all of the family needs and I don’t feel guilty about it. I have personally sacrificed many of the fun things I used to like to do. That is the way it should be. Responsibility as a father to take care of your family trumps personal wants and desires. I get up early in the AM when they are sleeping to get a start on the day and try to be home by 6-6:30. Spend the rest of the night with them. Do I miss out on watching “The walking dead” - yep. Do I care - nope! My wife and I still allow for some fun expenditures. Travel, cars, etc... That is to keep us sane as well. You can’t help others if you are in a bad spot as well. To all the family members trying to make it work, my hats off to you. Everybody’s situation is a bit different. To the OP - you have made your decision. Now go make the most of it and don’t look back. Never question it and you will likely find the balance that you need. [/QUOTE]
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