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If you had fatal disease and months to live would you..
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<blockquote data-quote="CobraBob" data-source="post: 15956561" data-attributes="member: 6727"><p>Good points, my brother. I totally understand. We're talking about very challenging, very personal decisions. We're going through a tough time now with my mother-in-law, who requires 24/7 care due to a stroke she had about 10 years ago. She lost most of her mobility and her brain doesn't function like it used to. She can no longer even use her walker. She is pained by the loss of her mobility, but loves to be surrounded by her family. And her family loves to care for her. Because of the high cost of nursing/assistance care, most of the care has to be provided by my wife. Mom needs to be bathed, taken to the bathroom (supervised), fed, put into bed, gotten out of bed, sat in a chair, etc. My wife is literally living in her mom's home from 3:30 PM to 10:00 AM every day. She doesn't sleep here. She sleeps there, every night. My wife and I are both fine with that. I miss her terribly and she misses me terribly. Fortunately we work together, so I see her from 10:30 AM - 2:30 PM Monday through Thursday. It's hard for her mom to see my wife and I apart, but she isn't ready to depart. That said, I have thought many times over the past few months what would I do in the same situation. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be a burden, and I don't think I would be able to handle the loss of control of the things I take for granted now. Things like driving, housekeeping, bathing, washing clothes, using the bathroom privately, etc. I've told a number of my friends that I can see a day in the future when we will all be able to make our own decisions on extending our lives when our quality of life has declined due to health or physical issues. It's a very personal decision in that case, but if possible loving family members should be included in the decision making process. At least when possible. </p><p></p><p>Me? I'm on the fence relative to my own life. My wife, for example? I couldn't likely let her go. These are extremely personal and sensitive decisions, and there is no absolute answer that works for everyone. The example of my son-in-law and my daughter was right for their family. We're all different. Our situations are all different and very personal. Truth be told, I would bet the vast majority of us would hope that we pass in our sleep, peacefully, before we are suffering health or physical issues that degrade our quality of life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CobraBob, post: 15956561, member: 6727"] Good points, my brother. I totally understand. We're talking about very challenging, very personal decisions. We're going through a tough time now with my mother-in-law, who requires 24/7 care due to a stroke she had about 10 years ago. She lost most of her mobility and her brain doesn't function like it used to. She can no longer even use her walker. She is pained by the loss of her mobility, but loves to be surrounded by her family. And her family loves to care for her. Because of the high cost of nursing/assistance care, most of the care has to be provided by my wife. Mom needs to be bathed, taken to the bathroom (supervised), fed, put into bed, gotten out of bed, sat in a chair, etc. My wife is literally living in her mom's home from 3:30 PM to 10:00 AM every day. She doesn't sleep here. She sleeps there, every night. My wife and I are both fine with that. I miss her terribly and she misses me terribly. Fortunately we work together, so I see her from 10:30 AM - 2:30 PM Monday through Thursday. It's hard for her mom to see my wife and I apart, but she isn't ready to depart. That said, I have thought many times over the past few months what would I do in the same situation. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be a burden, and I don't think I would be able to handle the loss of control of the things I take for granted now. Things like driving, housekeeping, bathing, washing clothes, using the bathroom privately, etc. I've told a number of my friends that I can see a day in the future when we will all be able to make our own decisions on extending our lives when our quality of life has declined due to health or physical issues. It's a very personal decision in that case, but if possible loving family members should be included in the decision making process. At least when possible. Me? I'm on the fence relative to my own life. My wife, for example? I couldn't likely let her go. These are extremely personal and sensitive decisions, and there is no absolute answer that works for everyone. The example of my son-in-law and my daughter was right for their family. We're all different. Our situations are all different and very personal. Truth be told, I would bet the vast majority of us would hope that we pass in our sleep, peacefully, before we are suffering health or physical issues that degrade our quality of life. [/QUOTE]
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