So, Saturday night I attended a bachelor party. We all had a great time but in terms of friends showing up, between distances across country and work schedules only 4 of us (including the groom) actually made it. It was a great time, but we definitely had to scale back some of our plans to fit a budget that was now split between 3 people instead of 10+ as originally planned. Overall, especially after negotiating our way onto a random bachelorette party bus, the night was a raging success.
Which brings me to my question. Next month, I'm in charge of setting up a bachelor party for my soon to be brother in law...and I know he would like himself one hell of a party. Here's the problem. His one brother is too young to drink and the other one would rather not have anything to do with such a night of "debauchery" - there goes the designated driver. Basically, anything slightly immoral, including gambling and anything that's over $30 including dinner is a no go.
So, then I figured I'd contact some of his old buddies, but have since realized he used to be very antisocial. The few times he is able to have a guys night, its usually just me and him grabbing a drink and occasionally meeting up with people I know, which are good friends of mine but hardly more than drunk, bar acquaintances for him.
Anyways, before I ask him, I wanted to get SVTPs thoughts and see if it would be acceptable to invite some of my friends along. I'm sure everyone would be game for a good party, and I'd like to give him the full bachelor party right of passing, but I just don't think it'd feel like a party with just me and him. At the same, being that this is his bachelor party, a part of me feels it might be disrespectful to involve people that he really doesn't know very well - even though I'm sure they'd treat him as the center of attention and all.
As far as the wedding party, its a destination Hawaii wedding so there really isn't even a group of grooms men either. What I desperately need is a group of his friends, but it appears his past antisocialness and his current time consuming career (which doesnt allow him to really develop any coworker bonds either) hasnt left him much in the way of buddies...
Thoughts? How do you think I should go about this? I think we'll grab a big dinner with his brothers and stuff to make sure his family is involved, but after that should I try and give him a "proper" bachelor party by involving some 3rd party friends of mine he's met and partied with a few times, keep it more g-rated so his younger brothers can be involved all night, or go out and party just the two of us? But then otd basically be him getting drunk and me driving...which seems awkward as a tag along and hardly a bachelor party.
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Which brings me to my question. Next month, I'm in charge of setting up a bachelor party for my soon to be brother in law...and I know he would like himself one hell of a party. Here's the problem. His one brother is too young to drink and the other one would rather not have anything to do with such a night of "debauchery" - there goes the designated driver. Basically, anything slightly immoral, including gambling and anything that's over $30 including dinner is a no go.
So, then I figured I'd contact some of his old buddies, but have since realized he used to be very antisocial. The few times he is able to have a guys night, its usually just me and him grabbing a drink and occasionally meeting up with people I know, which are good friends of mine but hardly more than drunk, bar acquaintances for him.
Anyways, before I ask him, I wanted to get SVTPs thoughts and see if it would be acceptable to invite some of my friends along. I'm sure everyone would be game for a good party, and I'd like to give him the full bachelor party right of passing, but I just don't think it'd feel like a party with just me and him. At the same, being that this is his bachelor party, a part of me feels it might be disrespectful to involve people that he really doesn't know very well - even though I'm sure they'd treat him as the center of attention and all.
As far as the wedding party, its a destination Hawaii wedding so there really isn't even a group of grooms men either. What I desperately need is a group of his friends, but it appears his past antisocialness and his current time consuming career (which doesnt allow him to really develop any coworker bonds either) hasnt left him much in the way of buddies...
Thoughts? How do you think I should go about this? I think we'll grab a big dinner with his brothers and stuff to make sure his family is involved, but after that should I try and give him a "proper" bachelor party by involving some 3rd party friends of mine he's met and partied with a few times, keep it more g-rated so his younger brothers can be involved all night, or go out and party just the two of us? But then otd basically be him getting drunk and me driving...which seems awkward as a tag along and hardly a bachelor party.
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