Sorry to unload on you guys but I'm using the somewhat anonymity of the web to vent...its alot so be prepared lol.
Just had to break up with the girlfriend of 3 years. Not sure why/how I made it this long. I'm not perfect and never claimed to be, I'd even say there were things I learned in this relationship that will undoubtedly make me a better partner. But she was extremely jealous, possessive, immature and could NOT get over the fact that I've dated women of other races...the KICKER? She's bi-racial (puerto rican/black)! I honestly felt as if I tried, and damn hard to be with her and be what she needed in a companion. This was honestly my first experience with someone like this as I've always dated older women (shes younger than myself). This relationship has gradually worn me down and turned me into an asshole without me realizing it. I knew I had to break up with her when I had no desire to have sex with her, and she's absolutely stunning.
Few instances:
Never wanted me around women, period. I have a co-worker who I've been teammates with for over five years and she feels its inappropriate for us to ever talk.
She honestly felt as if I had no reason to have friends, and on the rare occasion I managed to hang out with one of my two best friends she'd call or text viciously until I answered.
Blew EVERYTHING out of proportion and I mean everything. I could simply have a difference of opinion and it would result in her yelling, screaming and preaching about how I have no loyalty to her.
Anytime we were at odds she'd break up, then INSTANTLY call back. And KEEP calling until I answered. Its not unheard of to have 20-30 missed calls from her in a row. No exaggeration.
PDA in public was beyond annoying, not just the average kiss and hand holding. I'm talking full on groping, pawing, etc...EVERYWHERE we went.
She always had to "feel special" and "wanted"...I dunno how much more wanted and special I could've made this woman feel lol.
Despite us being together for 3 years and her having stayed at my places many nights\weekends, she decides to go through my bookshelf, I have nothing to hide so I don't scrutinize this even though I think its odd to pry in someone elses home. She sees a book titled "How to Maintain Emotional Stability in Your Relationship". Asks where I got it, I explain I got it from an ex over 8 years ago and that I've never read it. She pulls my entire bookshelf off the wall in anger. This was the final straw...I ended the relationship.
In the beginning she revealed she was sexually abused as a child and suffers from PTSD and slew of other issues. I tried to be there for her, part of me feels like a failed her but I've been absolutely miserable these past few months. I KNOW relationships aren't suppose to be this way.
Even got a second opinion from a female friend who was also abused as a child, she feels I was being mentally abused by my ex and manipulated into feeling guilt.
I ALMOST (keyword here) feel guilty for NOT being sad about this break up but I just could NOT take it.
Share your war stories if you feel compelled. I'm curious as to if I'm in the minority in dealing with this type of relationship. Not looking for a pitty party as I'm quite happy now, vacationing to Macau in two months ALONE!!! HELL YEA!!!
Just had to break up with the girlfriend of 3 years. Not sure why/how I made it this long. I'm not perfect and never claimed to be, I'd even say there were things I learned in this relationship that will undoubtedly make me a better partner. But she was extremely jealous, possessive, immature and could NOT get over the fact that I've dated women of other races...the KICKER? She's bi-racial (puerto rican/black)! I honestly felt as if I tried, and damn hard to be with her and be what she needed in a companion. This was honestly my first experience with someone like this as I've always dated older women (shes younger than myself). This relationship has gradually worn me down and turned me into an asshole without me realizing it. I knew I had to break up with her when I had no desire to have sex with her, and she's absolutely stunning.
Few instances:
Never wanted me around women, period. I have a co-worker who I've been teammates with for over five years and she feels its inappropriate for us to ever talk.
She honestly felt as if I had no reason to have friends, and on the rare occasion I managed to hang out with one of my two best friends she'd call or text viciously until I answered.
Blew EVERYTHING out of proportion and I mean everything. I could simply have a difference of opinion and it would result in her yelling, screaming and preaching about how I have no loyalty to her.
Anytime we were at odds she'd break up, then INSTANTLY call back. And KEEP calling until I answered. Its not unheard of to have 20-30 missed calls from her in a row. No exaggeration.
PDA in public was beyond annoying, not just the average kiss and hand holding. I'm talking full on groping, pawing, etc...EVERYWHERE we went.
She always had to "feel special" and "wanted"...I dunno how much more wanted and special I could've made this woman feel lol.
Despite us being together for 3 years and her having stayed at my places many nights\weekends, she decides to go through my bookshelf, I have nothing to hide so I don't scrutinize this even though I think its odd to pry in someone elses home. She sees a book titled "How to Maintain Emotional Stability in Your Relationship". Asks where I got it, I explain I got it from an ex over 8 years ago and that I've never read it. She pulls my entire bookshelf off the wall in anger. This was the final straw...I ended the relationship.
In the beginning she revealed she was sexually abused as a child and suffers from PTSD and slew of other issues. I tried to be there for her, part of me feels like a failed her but I've been absolutely miserable these past few months. I KNOW relationships aren't suppose to be this way.
Even got a second opinion from a female friend who was also abused as a child, she feels I was being mentally abused by my ex and manipulated into feeling guilt.
I ALMOST (keyword here) feel guilty for NOT being sad about this break up but I just could NOT take it.
Share your war stories if you feel compelled. I'm curious as to if I'm in the minority in dealing with this type of relationship. Not looking for a pitty party as I'm quite happy now, vacationing to Macau in two months ALONE!!! HELL YEA!!!
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