Dementia

It’s really tough to see. My mom has really slipped in the last six months. She remembers stuff from the past in detail, but often doesn’t know where she is right now or why.

Sorry to hear this. I am going through the same with my father and an aunt that I take care of.

There can be enjoyable moments, too. It is very easy to bring joy to their lives.

Occasionally I will eat a gummie and hang out with them for entertainment.

It will get worse when they can't take care of themselves.

My mom is almost completely gone, the change in 6 months is unbelievable.

My mother died of Alzheimer's and my Dad was having dementia when he passed. It sucks to watch them go like that. You have my sympathies.

U.M.

I'm sympathetic as well. My dad's progressed rapidly after a hart attack. I was thankful to have a wife willing to take him in and take care of him.

I’m really sorry to hear this brother, I’ve never dealt with this first hand so I couldn’t ever imagine how it is. Luckily but not luckily I guess my mom passed at 38, and my day at 68. However during his last stages of cancer it spread to his brain and he began to lose motor functions, and then speech. Horrible to see a loved one suffer. Keep your head up man. We are all here for you.

my grandmother has it...

I talked to her about a month ago.. I had to tell her I was 36 probably 7 times.

We had the same conversation a few times within minutes.

Tough card to be dealt… I’d seek solace in the fact that she likely lived a full and fulfilling life.

We all have an expiration date. At some point, all of us will no longer be masters of our faculties.

Hope you can find some sort of peace with it and can be there as much as possible to support her.

You have my condolences. My uncle had dementia and I remember the last time I saw him, he looked at me and had no clue who I was. I honestly think that was one of the reasons my grandfather didn't take any treatment for his cancer. His memory was starting to slip already and he didn't want to end up like his brother. I say already, but he was 88 when he passed.

It’s definitely tough to see them degrade to such a state. My late grandfather had it towards the end of his life, and seeing him in that state was difficult to bear. My other grandfather is currently living with us due to it. Thankfully my mothers father isn’t burdened with it.


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My in-laws live with us, my father in law is in late stage dementia caused by Normal Pressure Hydrocephalus and my mother in law is in earlier stages of vascular dementia. To say it has been trying would be the understatement of the Century. My FIL also has late stage kidney failure and stage 4 heart failure. He needs part of his foot to be amputated, but they say he would not survive the surgery. We are on the cusp of Hospice care for him and to be honest, additional help would be welcome.

Took my dad from me...****in pissed me off to come home from the Navy to man i barely knew...the first couple years werent terrible... ut the last few were really bad.

Im still pissed about it and he has been dead for almost 5 years

Sorry to hear this. It’s rough my grandpa has Alzheimer’s my wife and I helped take care of him
He got to stay at home till the last few months it’s rough.


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Been there as well. My mother passed this past November from Alzheimers at age 87 and my father who turned 90 in January cared for her right up to the moment she passed.

My grandmother was more of a mother to me than my mother. I talked to her throughout my 20 years in the Military a couple times a week. She started slipping about 5 years before my Grandfather bled out from his dialysis stint rupturing one night in bed. After he passed she flew downhill. Horrible last 4 years for her. Sorry man.....be strong and do your best for her sake. Prayers.

Father in law had it and he became somewhat angry in his last few years. He hurt himself a few times and had to be picked up by an ambulance and taken to the hospital each time. I got COVID, gave it to my sister in law and she gave it to him. He died in the hospital with it and pneumonia. Sad because I really looked up to him as a kid and he taught me a lot.

Dementia is a tough one. Watched my grandfather progress for years but the almost childlike nature that develops is heartwarming and depressing at the same time.
He would constantly have meals of a bite or two then say he's full but would hit a bunch of cookies and ice cream sandwiches 10 minutes later.
He would have very clear days and very unclear days. Like other have said, it's not bad until they forget bodily tasks like using the bathroom. I laughed alot with my grandfather and I focus on this memories over his degradation, that's my best advice for you.

One of the biggest things is finding everything to get in control of her financial matters. I have power of attorney financial and medical, trust, etc. I am finding all the places to send it to. I have forwarded her mail and have control of her bank accounts to keep everything paid etc. social security has a call scheduled to work on that and I needed a letter from Dr stating her condition.
I am keeping her phone active for two factor authentication for online access
2 pensions, 2 insurance companies and no telling what else. I am getting there slowly. It’s harder since she is unable to get on phone with places to do something as simple as address change.

Sorry to hear. How long has she had it?

My dad was diagnosed about 3 years ago and its been a slow decline but he is still doing pretty well and living on his own. His short term is going though and he will ask you the same question a dozen times in a 1-2hr visit. I'm terrified to see what the future holds for him but thankful his, so far, has been a slow progress.

Hang in there. And if you want to have a good cry, go listen to Glen Campbells "Not Gonna Miss You"

So sorry to hear about your mother.
We battled Dementia (my mother, sister, and I) with my Father for many years. He passed away in 2018. My mother, immediately after my father's passing, begun to forget everything. My sister and I brought her in for testing hoping it was what is called "complicated grieving". However, it turns out my mother now had Dementia. My sister and I both took care of here at home for 5+ years until it was no longer feasible. We were told she needed "24+" hours of care a day.
She barely recognizes us, and she just lays in her bed and cries.
Dementia ****ing sucks and I would not wish it on my worst enemy.