My life is changing

Morgan

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It's THE best thing in the world. Period.


Not sure if you read much, but I found this book helpful. Not so much that it was precisely accurate, but the concepts helped me detach and make better sense of the whole experience.

1. Never turn down a hug or a kiss
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21. Be her dad, not her friend.

Great list! I'd suggest adding Brazilian jiu-jitsu at age 4.
 

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I am one year into this whole thing, my daughter just turned one October 23rd. Time flies, and the little football I held in my hand coming home from the hospital, has turned into something much different. It's an amazing experience, and the one thing I already regret, is I did not hold my daughter enough. If I could go back, I would hold her all the time. Now, she is wanting to be so independent she only wants to be held when she is really sleepy.
 

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Congrats! My daughter has been the biggest blessing in my life. She's my best buddy and I wouldn't trade being a dad for anything.

Advice...this can kind of be overwhelming, but like some others have said (directly or indirectly) basically every word and action of yours will affect your kids. Takes a little practice on a man's part to think before he speaks. Keep your cool and always make her feel like she's the best! She'll see you how you treat others, especially mom.

Other advice for early on - read "On Becoming Baby Wise" before she's born. It's about sleeping. All of your lives will be much better if baby sleeps well. It's not necessarily easy to follow the guidelines in the book at first, but it is well worth it.

Good luck!
 

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Don't buy the small bottles, they will outgrow them in seemed like a week and we had to buy the bigger ones.
If you give the threat of a consequence for doing something be prepared to follow through everytime or your words become meaningless.
Raise them to be good people when they become adults.

The single most important job as a parent is protecting your child. I would sacrifice myself for my kids just as fast as I would take a life to keep my kids safe.
 

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Congrats to you and your girl man.
Life is gonna change for sure. lol Good luck!
 

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The best news a man can hear! Congratulations!!!
My advice:
1. Make sure you and your significant other still make time for each other. Don’t let your child be your reason for not keeping things exciting together. I’ve seen too many relationships fail due to not making time for each other when kids come along.
2. Never make a threat that is unrealistic and you know you can’t enforce. Kids pick up on that stuff. I know, it’s a little soon for that, but that is one of the best parenting tips I’ve ever received.
3. Enjoy every moment of the baby phase. It goes fast. Cherish the moments holding that little one while you’re sitting in your favorite chair. It’s too short of a time to take for granted.
4. Breathe through your mouth when changing a diaper full of crap.
5. Let your little one know how much you love them every day, multiple times per day. Especially, since you’re having a girl, that daughter of yours needs to know how a man should treat a woman...and you’re that shining example that she will be basing her decision later in life off of. Let her know how special she really is!


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Thank for all the replies!! This little one has a solid family waiting for her, and two parents who love her more than she knows already. Haha, my fiance's nickname among her nieces and nephews is Sgt. Slaughter. Little one wont get away with nuthin. :D :D :D

Already have a name picked out too: Alice Nicole. Mama's been thinking about that one for a long time. :)
 

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Congrats, if y’all do it right, it’ll rock. I have 3, 35, 34 and my daughter is 32. We all still get along great. If I need help as I get older, no questions asked. Works the other way too.
 

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Congrats lexustech, my son is 7 months old and it's great to watch him develop and start observing the world around him. As others have mentioned, it's definitely a life changer but in the best way possible!


Congrats, bruh!
Teach her how to hit 4th gear....and not be a pillhead.
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Hybred was a pill popper too? Can't say i recall that.
 

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Congrats. You'll be great parents!

Advice?
- Never miss an opportunity to have lunch with her, take her to school/pcik her up, go to her activities, be one of her coaches, attend a parent/teacher conference, and take at least 1 family vacation/year of 7+ days.
- Remember, no one has ever laid on their death bed and said, "I wished I would have worked more".
 

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Congrats! When it gets stressful and you think you just aren’t doing well enough by the baby, just remember somewhere in Baltimore is a crack head that has children so you’ll do just fine lol.
 

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Congrats man, my little girl is 19 months today, she is hands down the best part of my life, every day I come from work she is so excited to see me. You're going to have an awesome time being a dad.

This is mine and my daughter's Shelbys.
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First: congratulations! Second, I bet you'll be a great dad. Third, dont get hung up on "how to be a Dad," because you're wired up for it already and you'll be surprised how fast and hard it hits you. All in a good way.

Fourth: there is no greater gift in this world to hold that baby in your arms and realize: "this is my child. I am her Daddy."

Congratulations!


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congrats ! that's fricken awesome ! Things are gonna change A LOT but it's a good change. Sleep as much as you can and enjoy your free time LOL. Take pictures every day with the little one .....the time passes WAY too fast.
 

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Forgot one thing that someone touched on earlier.

Do not allow co-sleeping. Do a crib, bassinet, box, or whatever you choose beside the bed.

Once they’re not screaming for boob or bottle, transition them out as soon as your wife is comfortable.

My wife allowed our first to sleep with us way too long and we are still dealing with sleeping issues at 7 years old.
 

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