Getting a divorce

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Just reading this OP...sorry this happened to you. I know exactly how feel right now, went through it two years ago. My ex was cheating on me for two years with another married guy...who subsequently left his wife for my wife. I'm going to go against what a lot of people are saying here...but DO NOT look for any female companionship at this point. You need to spend time doing stuff for you. You are not ready to get back into a relationship. You will go through all kinds of ups and downs in the next year and you don't need the distraction of a woman or women in your life. You are super lucky you didnt have kids also...count your blessings. 2nd point, remember how much this hurts. Keep it buried away but never forget it. Women are pet tigers and are pretty and nice to look at and pet sometimes...but can turn on you and eat your head off in an instant. I laugh at most guys who say "my girl would never hurt me..." its honestly not a matter of if but when. There is 51% divorce rate in this country. That's only for 10 year marriages. Statistically speaking...a first marriage only has a 29% chance of lasting 30 years. 2nd marriage rates are exponentially worse. Do not get married again. Drum this into your mind, please. Your brain will try to convince you someday when you eventually get involved with another woman "oh but shes different than the others". No she isn't. If I told you the plane you were about to board had a 70% chance of crashing you wouldnt get on it...but everyday men think they can beat the odds and board the "marriage plane". Don't do it. Consider going MGTOW and smash away when you are ready, but please dont ever marry, cohabitate or knock them up because they will own you. The gynocentric courts in the country love to divorce rape men. Remember...pet tigers. Best of luck. I feel for you.

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Holy shit this is a wall of brutal truth about women and marriage!

A little over 2 years into married life for me at age 35 and we have a 5 month old son. I have no reason to believe it won't work out with my wife but if it doesn't, I sure as hell am not ever getting married again or having children with any other woman.
 

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Holy shit this is a wall of brutal truth about women and marriage!

A little over 2 years into married life for me at age 35 and we have a 5 month old son. I have no reason to believe it won't work out with my wife but if it doesn't, I sure as hell am not ever getting married again or having children with any other woman.

What makes you say the last part :D...lol no need to answer, I feel yah, still on my first marriage that has definitely had some bumps in the road and I feel the same way, if for some reason we do divorce. I will never ever do it again.
 

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Just reading this OP...sorry this happened to you. I know exactly how feel right now, went through it two years ago. My ex was cheating on me for two years with another married guy...who subsequently left his wife for my wife. I'm going to go against what a lot of people are saying here...but DO NOT look for any female companionship at this point. You need to spend time doing stuff for you. You are not ready to get back into a relationship. You will go through all kinds of ups and downs in the next year and you don't need the distraction of a woman or women in your life. You are super lucky you didnt have kids also...count your blessings. 2nd point, remember how much this hurts. Keep it buried away but never forget it. Women are pet tigers and are pretty and nice to look at and pet sometimes...but can turn on you and eat your head off in an instant. I laugh at most guys who say "my girl would never hurt me..." its honestly not a matter of if but when. There is 51% divorce rate in this country. That's only for 10 year marriages. Statistically speaking...a first marriage only has a 29% chance of lasting 30 years. 2nd marriage rates are exponentially worse. Do not get married again. Drum this into your mind, please. Your brain will try to convince you someday when you eventually get involved with another woman "oh but shes different than the others". No she isn't. If I told you the plane you were about to board had a 70% chance of crashing you wouldnt get on it...but everyday men think they can beat the odds and board the "marriage plane". Don't do it. Consider going MGTOW and smash away when you are ready, but please dont ever marry, cohabitate or knock them up because they will own you. The gynocentric courts in the country love to divorce rape men. Remember...pet tigers. Best of luck. I feel for you.

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Yeah I thought that way once. First marriage didn't last (both very young) and swore never again after what she put me through. I'm a loner by nature and never "need" to be in a relationship so the idea didn't bother me. Fast forward 22 years and I just celebrated my 15th anniversary with my wife and couldn't be happier still.
 

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My buddies wife cheated on him. She wouldn't even admit it. He waited a YEAR (even when I told him to bail), tried to work it out with TWO shrinks. He's FINALLY cutting the cord with her in December. Some dudes just don't get it. If she cheats on you .....she's gonna do it again. These hoes don't ****ing respect. My advise to any guy would be to pull the chute ASAP. If my wife did that shit I'd be gone the very next day. Gets real complicated with children though.
 

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I lol at you guys who say you'll never do it again...

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I lol at you guys who say you'll never do it again...
Oh trust me...I went down this road twice. 1st marriage, the ex was bipolar and tried to kill me...2nd marriage was the one with the cheater I detailed above. When I say I'm done...I'm done. I cant get back the last 20 years and I'm financially at the point in my life where I would never expose myself to the risk of marriage. Remember this little tidbit, women initiate over 70% of the divorces in this country. Why? Because they can. Why do men pay alimony and child support in 91% of all divorces? There is inherently almost zero risk in a divorce for women, while men are routinely court raped. What benefit does marriage hold for a man? Seriously? You don't need to be married to get laid or have kids. So where is the benefit? It's a complete scam. Like I said before...1st marriages have a divorce rate of 51% in the 1st 10 years. Over 70% of those divorces are initiated by women. 2nd marriages, the divorce rate is 68% in the 1st 10 years with women initiating over 80% of those. Men need to wake the **** up.

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Oh trust me...I went down this road twice. 1st marriage, the ex was bipolar and tried to kill me...2nd marriage was the one with the cheater I detailed above. When I say I'm done...I'm done. I cant get back the last 20 years and I'm financially at the point in my life where I would never expose myself to the risk of marriage. Remember this little tidbit, women initiate over 70% of the divorces in this country. Why? Because they can. Why do men pay alimony and child support in 91% of all divorces? There is inherently almost zero risk in a divorce for women, while men are routinely court raped. What benefit does marriage hold for a man? Seriously? You don't need to be married to get laid or have kids. So where is the benefit? It's a complete scam. Like I said before...1st marriages have a divorce rate of 51% in the 1st 10 years. Over 70% of those divorces are initiated by women. 2nd marriages, the divorce rate is 68% in the 1st 10 years with women initiating over 80% of those. Men need to wake the **** up.

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**** that LOL. it's called get a GF....never get married again ....
 

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Just reading this OP...sorry this happened to you. I know exactly how feel right now, went through it two years ago. My ex was cheating on me for two years with another married guy...who subsequently left his wife for my wife. I'm going to go against what a lot of people are saying here...but DO NOT look for any female companionship at this point. You need to spend time doing stuff for you. You are not ready to get back into a relationship. You will go through all kinds of ups and downs in the next year and you don't need the distraction of a woman or women in your life. You are super lucky you didnt have kids also...count your blessings. 2nd point, remember how much this hurts. Keep it buried away but never forget it. Women are pet tigers and are pretty and nice to look at and pet sometimes...but can turn on you and eat your head off in an instant. I laugh at most guys who say "my girl would never hurt me..." its honestly not a matter of if but when. There is 51% divorce rate in this country. That's only for 10 year marriages. Statistically speaking...a first marriage only has a 29% chance of lasting 30 years. 2nd marriage rates are exponentially worse. Do not get married again. Drum this into your mind, please. Your brain will try to convince you someday when you eventually get involved with another woman "oh but shes different than the others". No she isn't. If I told you the plane you were about to board had a 70% chance of crashing you wouldnt get on it...but everyday men think they can beat the odds and board the "marriage plane". Don't do it. Consider going MGTOW and smash away when you are ready, but please dont ever marry, cohabitate or knock them up because they will own you. The gynocentric courts in the country love to divorce rape men. Remember...pet tigers. Best of luck. I feel for you.
That's a wall of truth. I know a pastor that quit doing weddings because he is tired of being a part of commitments in front of God that people weren't keeping.

The feminist movement and the selfishness of modern society has destroyed marriage. That pastor holds his pre-marriage counciling sessions in the community center clubhouse where we live and I've heard enoigh of them to know his speech by heart. The sessions are very focused on the women needing to provide the tools the man needs to be a good husband. Thanks to femenism that's something women don't do anymore and marriages are suffering because of it.
 

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That's a wall of truth. I know a pastor that quit doing weddings because he is tired of being a part of commitments in front of God that people weren't keeping.

The feminist movement and the selfishness of modern society has destroyed marriage. That pastor holds his pre-marriage counciling sessions in the community center clubhouse where we live and I've heard enoigh of them to know his speech by heart. The sessions are very focused on the women needing to provide the tools the man needs to be a good husband. Thanks to femenism that's something women don't do anymore and marriages are suffering because of it.

Huh?
You’re either a good husband or not.

Your wife has nothing to do with it to me.

I can’t figure out what that means.


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That's a wall of truth. I know a pastor that quit doing weddings because he is tired of being a part of commitments in front of God that people weren't keeping.

The feminist movement and the selfishness of modern society has destroyed marriage. That pastor holds his pre-marriage counciling sessions in the community center clubhouse where we live and I've heard enoigh of them to know his speech by heart. The sessions are very focused on the women needing to provide the tools the man needs to be a good husband. Thanks to femenism that's something women don't do anymore and marriages are suffering because of it.
Sounds Pentecostal to me. Women are not equal to men.
 

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Time heals all wounds. Forgive but never forget...
Time does heal all wounds, but stop stepping on the same rake. If shes worth it and made one mistake I'd forgive and move on with her. People make mistakes and they are usually a reaction to some other problem. If it's part if her personality or there was no logical reason for the distance it will never change, trust me, and that rake you keep stepping on is actually a hoe

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That's a wall of truth. I know a pastor that quit doing weddings because he is tired of being a part of commitments in front of God that people weren't keeping.

The feminist movement and the selfishness of modern society has destroyed marriage. That pastor holds his pre-marriage counciling sessions in the community center clubhouse where we live and I've heard enoigh of them to know his speech by heart. The sessions are very focused on the women needing to provide the tools the man needs to be a good husband. Thanks to femenism that's something women don't do anymore and marriages are suffering because of it.

Provide the tools to the man? See, that shit pisses me off. It's basically implying that men are the problem, or the lesser of the couple, or need to be broken, or something. It's not a one way street. Women aren't better partners than men by default.
 

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