Tips for dealing with social anxiety

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I can relate to most of what he’s talking about and have been in a headspace like that for years. Just listen to what he has to say because he’s speaking from the heart. He’s giving some solid advice.
 

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Yeah, way different backgrounds, but I am right there with him. If you dont have to deal with it, that is good. If you do, try and figure out how to reel the shit back in if you can. Made a ton of difference for me too.
 

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I make an effort not to go to social gatherings...dont wanna get shot!
 

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Those are some helpful tips. I have bad social anxiety, had it for as long as I can remember. I hate going to social events, but because I have children now I have to hide this discomfort and just do things because I don’t want my kids to miss out on things or even start having anxiety themselves.
 

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Those are some helpful tips. I have bad social anxiety, had it for as long as I can remember. I hate going to social events, but because I have children now I have to hide this discomfort and just do things because I don’t want my kids to miss out on things or even start having anxiety themselves.

Yeah, that presents some issues. Just had to go to my sons "meet and greet" for football. It had been outside the past few years. This year they decided a school gym was a good idea for it. All age groups, small space, and it was fun for my kids. I hated it, but I had to do that one.
 

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I found it interesting that he was uncomfortable when everyone starts with the old "I'm a doctor" or "I'm a nuclear physicist". Jeez, the guy was a Navy Seal. That's pretty damn impressive shit there, so I can't understand why he's anxious about playing that "what do you do?" game. I realize he's out of the Seal trade, but still, those doctors and lawyers would be mightily impressed, I'm guessing.
 

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I can't remember how many times some jackwad has asked me if I ever killed anyone. Even with fifty years gone by its still a very uncomfortable position to be in. And you never see it coming. I usually just say no and hope the conversation shifts. If I can compose myself quickly I say I have never killed a human being, only communists, or I tell them about my shotglass collection. I only have one shotglass.
Thats the kind of crap you want to avoid if at all possible.

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Who gives a **** about the need to attend social gatherings? He moved "out in the middle of nowhere" didn't he?
 

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Shit, nobody wants anybody to go postal. My point is if he moved to a place to get away from people then why be concerned about gatherings of people whereby you become uncomfortable? Don't put yourself in the very position you are seeking to avoid.
 

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True, true. Lost a good friend and a family member. One on one great to be around. More the 6 or so, they got paranoid.

As long as I have plenty of open space, like at the drag strip, I'm cool. Put me in a crowded room and I will be ok for a few, but then its adios. That time varies and I know the physical ques as the guy in the video said. It's definitely a "get the **** out now" mode too. No, hold on a minute. I dont think it's a good trait by any means, but I also know my limits.
Took me a long time to figure it out and my ex just couldn't understand it and it drove us apart. Cant blame her, but she knew what she was getting into way before we ever got married. Guess she thought it would go away over time.
Just get better at handling it with time.
 

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Shit, nobody wants anybody to go postal. My point is if he moved to a place to get away from people then why be concerned about gatherings of people whereby you become uncomfortable? Don't put yourself in the very position you are seeking to avoid.
Right, but as f-tards go postal about once a week, I’d prefer it to be a blue-haired-twat-waffle-democuck, not some war hero gone rabid. Good God Man, consider the body count!
 

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What my therapist told me is that what we resist will percist, so avoiding things will not make feeling lessen. you find yourself putting them in a box for the time being. they still can pop out pretty easily. so confronting things helps as long as you can maintain control and escape when you can't. He has a girlfriend that he trusts and that seems to understand and support him. That's a big step. Depresion and anxiety present as anger, so you can get on everyones shitlist pretty quick and that leads to greater isolation. The majority of people have no idea what you are feeling or thinking and really don't give a shit. I give him props for his service and empathise for his pain. This country has produced a lot of broken men without planning for how to deal with them after their service, they just show you the door and your are left to figure it out for yourself. some do, some don't. Personaly my list of friends is very short. Real friends probably zero.
I am not crying about it, it's just the hand I was dealt, I'm still playing it. I even win sometimes.
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Anxiety, depression etc will probably be something we never understand, at least I won't.

Everyone gets nervous or sad from time to time but getting to the point of letting yourself go to where you completely break down...it's just something I don't understand. Not a jab at anyone, just wish it was easier to understand.
 

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