Getting a divorce

Spend some “you” time, wax the mustang, enjoy the freedom, get laid, grill some steaks, and don’t put any energy into negativity.

I was there, but with a kid involved. I did the same as you.. bent over backwards to an embarrassing degree to try to keep a working relationship for the sake of my son. Shit sammidge for everyone. Her life fell apart. Mine didn’t. Cliche to say, but the best revenge is to live well. Get a girlfriend? Sure. But I’ll never be married again. Fk that bullshit.

OX1 said:

I'd "take her back" long enough to get your financials in the best order you can, exclusively for your benefit.
But I'm in Jersey, so not sure if you get screwed as bad down there, as up here.

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Yeah NJ has lifetime alimony, wtf is that?

IMO the post-divorce dating pool meat grinder is much, much harder to navigate for a woman than it is for a man, especially if you stay guarded and learn from the past. She will get what’s coming to her... I promise.


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All good advice here. Never take back a cheater when there’s no kids involved. Enjoy your freedom. Spend some time completely on yourself. Get in shape if you’re not already, and go out and enjoy being single. Do not fall back into any serious type of relationship in the near future.

Sucks man, similar boat.

If you didn’t blow it up already a post nup is a thing, if valid there get her ass to sign it then drop her a bit later. My mom did that to my pos step dad. Said she’d only go to counseling etc if he signed it. Stuck it out for whatever time period and threw him out.

congrats man. what's done is done. don't worry about it and don't stress out. Get your financials straight. focus on work. money comes first, then pussy

Sorry to hear. My dad always told me the best way to get over a girl is to get under a new one

Give yourself a few weeks to let everything sink in and process. Im not married yet, but cheated on by a long-term girlfriend. It sucked, she never admitted it, but when your new "motorcycle friend" is a single rich dude who wants to **** anything young, theres only one thing thats happening.

Eventually, you should work on forgiving her. Not for her sake but for yours. Its a process, one that involves a lot of strange pussy with no strings, doing fun guy shit with your bros and living in the moment.

In this time, you'll find out more about yourself, what you want, where you are in life. Eventually, you'll get your head cleared and be happy and content with you. Then and only then should you put your antennas up for another partner.

Good luck, get a vicious lawyer on your side and go enjoy life. Close this chapter of your life. Just remember, you are the author of this new one. Make it count!

03cobra#694 said:

Wrong, last thing you want to do.

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Agreed. Don't compromise your morals and standards simply because someone else did. And it could backfire during the divorce...

Don't have a whole lot to add that hasn't already been said but sorry to hear about your cheating wife. Just over 2 years married for me and we have a 4 month old son and if I found out my wife was cheating I'd be devastated.

As far as finding some strange pussy I'd say it really depends on you. For some it makes sense but for others it doesn't and if you can accomplish it without getting attached, knocking her up or catching any STD's i'd say go for it.

Download tinder and Bumble

Right swipe until your thumb gets tired.

Thanks fellas, I appreciate everyone’s advice. This has been going on for the better part of a year now, so I’ve pretty much already moved on. The real shitty part is that her brother and I are really good friends. Been good friends since 1st grade, which is over 30 years. He told me not to mess with her, but I got blinded by ass I guess. Emotionally I’m pretty solid finally, just the whole thing of getting back in the dating world is something I was hoping to never have to do.


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Get a female lawyer. I did, and it really plays well when another female is asking questions vs a Male. I couldn't believe how well she did for me.

^^ Good advice.

Also, you can still stay friends with her brother/family etc... It'll be the worst thing that could happen to her lol I invited my ex wife's brother to play in a rec basketball league with me a little over a year ago.

Sorry to hear about that.

lOOKnGO said:

Get a female lawyer. I did, and it really plays well when another female is asking questions vs a Male. I couldn't believe how well she did for me.

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That makes sense. She wouldn’t know how to react to that, I guarantee you.

13COBRA said:

^^ Good advice.

Also, you can still stay friends with her brother/family etc... It'll be the worst thing that could happen to her lol I invited my ex wife's brother to play in a rec basketball league with me a little over a year ago.

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Oh yeah, this isn’t going to mess up our friendship. We are like pretty much like brothers, I’m really tight with their family as well. She will be the one that feels awkward.

Mike's03Mach said:

Sorry to hear about that.

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Thanks man, I appreciate that.


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to a new model

See if your state has the following laws.

Alienation of affection

Criminal conversion.

Profit. I did.

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jsquared_25 said:

Thanks fellas, I appreciate everyone’s advice. This has been going on for the better part of a year now, so I’ve pretty much already moved on. The real shitty part is that her brother and I are really good friends. Been good friends since 1st grade, which is over 30 years. He told me not to mess with her, but I got blinded by ass I guess. Emotionally I’m pretty solid finally, just the whole thing of getting back in the dating world is something I was hoping to never have to do.


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dating world....**** it man, stay outta that shit for a while. Take a nice vacation. Go see the world. Hang out with good buddies. Do some sports you have never done. without pussy and kids you are FREE. Get out there and try new things. I guarantee you will learn new things about yourself. It's hard to move on but don't let the bullshit bring you down. I always say : It's a great day if you're alive ! There's some good guys around here if you need some help and support. No shit we love you like a bro.

Man, I’ll simply wish the best.

There are so many underlying issues to a divorce. Not debating fault, because sometimes it is decided in stone.

Instead, I’ll acknowledge that there are emotions pulling you in every direction.

My wife of 9 years (dating since ‘04) and I, plus our 3 boys don't always get along. While She’s also quick to throw out hurtful words and threatening texts, I couldn’t imagine restarting everything.

Best of luck, and don’t do anything too crazy!