For you parent with young kids
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So basically don’t let them be spoiled self centred assholes?
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My wife is just as important, if not more. If she's not happy, it affects everything at home.
It's entirely possible to make your kids feel important without them thinking the world revolves around them. But sadly, too many people don't understand how to do that.
It's entirely possible to make your kids feel important without them thinking the world revolves around them. But sadly, too many people don't understand how to do that.
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RDJ, while I respect your views I believe they are incorrect. As a father to young children I believe they are just as important or even a bit more important than a marriage. Our kids carry on our names and bloodline. And there is no love like that of a child’s towards their parents. Raise your children right, like the good lord says, and there should be no other issues in the family. A wife should be submissive to her husband and that’s that. I teach my son to be a good man and my daughter to be a good woman.
I agree. I love my 9 month old daughter more than anyone on this planet. My wife knows that and I know she feels that way as well. Its because of our love for our child we try to be better parents, and a better couple to each other as its important for my daughters well being.
There are good things in that article and I have shared that article with my family. However the guy is not completely correct. My wife and I put our kids first up until about 10-12 years old. We sacrificed the majority of our personal time to be deeply involved parents. We corrected and coached little things early and right away before they became bad habits. Then we started making them into independents. Stacking on more responsibilities and pulling ourselves away from them little by little. At the same time we started switching the bulk of our focus towards us as a couple instead of the kids. Our relationship was solid from the beginning so it didn't need to be worked on. However it was nice to finally be able to have freedom and be us again without kids. It's all a transitional switch over to get the kids out of the nest and having them prepared for LIFE. Now they are about to graduate high school and they have a better grasp on life than most 30 year olds. Now we are to the point where the kids take care of themselves for the most part and we are there as advisers in the background. Our whole family is very close and we all are the most important to each other.
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The guy is not completely correct, nor completely wrong..
I believe it's a balance. A good marriage will help kids develop.. Good kids help the marriage grow because you're doing it all together.. There is a way to get both, it's a balance, and I promise it's not easy..
I believe it's a balance. A good marriage will help kids develop.. Good kids help the marriage grow because you're doing it all together.. There is a way to get both, it's a balance, and I promise it's not easy..
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All of this! Well said
Yea he had some good points but failed miserably at others. You can raise your child as the most important one in your life and still balance your relationship with your spouse and your obligations to your family.
We just had our first child, I love my wife through and through, but it’s a different feeling then my son at least currently. No life experience, vulnerable, and pure still, I look at him and have a passion to be a better person and father so that he won’t end up an asshole.
We just had our first child, I love my wife through and through, but it’s a different feeling then my son at least currently. No life experience, vulnerable, and pure still, I look at him and have a passion to be a better person and father so that he won’t end up an asshole.
Balance man, balance. If you and your wife do not take the time you need for each other you will fail. Gotta remember, that child is there because you two are with each other. After 16 years, we have finally figured it out...mostly. also listening to ny wife rip my 10 year old a new one at this moment for leaving scissors where his younger brother can get at them. Do NOT get so caught up in the stress of parenting that you alienate each other. Buy her some damn tacos and touch her butt ffs!!
Dont know if we should take raising children advice from an OP who lived through the War of 1812
Our philosophy has always been to put God first (and sometimes we fail), each other second and everything else will fall into place. It helps that we're not pieces of shit who want to see each other crash and burn.
Well said sir, well said.
I agree with most parts of the article. Then again I don't have any kid's.
But my wife and I are 38 years old, been together over 21 years and married 15 years of that time. We have built an awesome relationship in these past 21 years. No plans to ever have children, but plenty of dogs!
My wife has told me numerous times that I'm the only one she trusts, I guess I could say I feel the same way.
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But my wife and I are 38 years old, been together over 21 years and married 15 years of that time. We have built an awesome relationship in these past 21 years. No plans to ever have children, but plenty of dogs!
My wife has told me numerous times that I'm the only one she trusts, I guess I could say I feel the same way.
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