Sometimes I think I should grovel at my wife's feet because I don't have to put up with so much crap I see guys bitch about. Then again, if I did, she would probably think it was alright to pull this crap.
Can you please shut the **** up?!
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Separate beds is worth the decrease in sex. I never thought I'd say that but **** the sleep is worth it.
Back on topic....you don't have to pick up your phone or respond. Novel concept.
If you enjoy dating her and are serious about the relationship, why end it over a fad? Yes, texting is a fad. Until around 2008 where it exploded, you'd either wait to get home or call someone during a lunch break.
You have to weigh it out. If this is the most major negative aspect, it's easy to fix. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Just discuss it with her, recognizing that she's reaching out to you because she is either lonely or needs validation/recognition for what she is doing. My wife used to do the same thing, and she'd feel terrible if I didn't text back. As cliche as this sounds, look at it from her perspective. Why is she texting so much? Then, ask why about the answer. Once you recognize and address that, you can work together to try to scale back. I feel like the blunt approach may not work out very well.
A few years ago, I worked with a guy whose wife would call him 5-6 times every day at work. It drove him nuts to the point where he hated spending actual time with her. One thing lead to another and they separated over it because he never addressed it with her. Some level of periodic separation in a relationship is healthy- if both parties don't get some level of "alone time" or a change of scenery from one another, it leads to stagnation. You find that there's more appreciation for seeing each other at the end of the day when you haven't spoken since you left the house. My wife and I work at the same facility and we've figured out a balance that works but it takes time and communication to achieve that.
Best of luck!
You have to weigh it out. If this is the most major negative aspect, it's easy to fix. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Just discuss it with her, recognizing that she's reaching out to you because she is either lonely or needs validation/recognition for what she is doing. My wife used to do the same thing, and she'd feel terrible if I didn't text back. As cliche as this sounds, look at it from her perspective. Why is she texting so much? Then, ask why about the answer. Once you recognize and address that, you can work together to try to scale back. I feel like the blunt approach may not work out very well.
A few years ago, I worked with a guy whose wife would call him 5-6 times every day at work. It drove him nuts to the point where he hated spending actual time with her. One thing lead to another and they separated over it because he never addressed it with her. Some level of periodic separation in a relationship is healthy- if both parties don't get some level of "alone time" or a change of scenery from one another, it leads to stagnation. You find that there's more appreciation for seeing each other at the end of the day when you haven't spoken since you left the house. My wife and I work at the same facility and we've figured out a balance that works but it takes time and communication to achieve that.
Best of luck!
My wife hates texting. I must be lucky.
That's my lazy ass co-worker. Him and his wife car pool to work every day and they talk probably 3-4 times on the phone, not including texting all day. Then go home and hold hands all night. They've been married 15+ years.
Too much for me. I need some space.
That's my lazy ass co-worker. Him and his wife car pool to work every day and they talk probably 3-4 times on the phone, not including texting all day. Then go home and hold hands all night. They've been married 15+ years.
Too much for me. I need some space.
Im pretty vocal and everyone including the wife knows i hate being bothered on my phone. They also know it could be days before i feel like responding. Everyone for the most part respects that.
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I just stop texting her back when she's blowing up my phone. But she does a good job of not over doing it anyway. More often then not, i'm texting ma dudes and talking car stuff throughout the day.
The one thing she does is leaves me alone in the garage. If I want to get outside and start turning wrenches she doesn't come bother me too much other than to steal a kiss, grab my butt, and bother me for a second.
The one thing she does is leaves me alone in the garage. If I want to get outside and start turning wrenches she doesn't come bother me too much other than to steal a kiss, grab my butt, and bother me for a second.
Been there done that. Told her knock it off & she went to the other extreme of never texting LOL
If this thread a joke? I assume you have some conversations with her. If that doesnt work and it bothers you enough to publicly bitch about it, then it's time to part ways. You make the bed you sleep in.
Is this the same girl you refer to as 'future wifey' in the Girlfriends thread? LOL!
Easy fix. Every text gets a phone call reply. Worked many times for me.
Space is good.
Oh, that's a good one! Can't say you're not communicating with that tactic!
My girl and I text the majority of the day, everyday.
No issue for me....she's hilarious, and why wouldn't I want to talk to her? O.O
But you could always.....i dont know.....tell her to not text you so much?
This thread is like sitting out in the snow saying its cold, with a jacket right next to you on the sidewalk.
No issue for me....she's hilarious, and why wouldn't I want to talk to her? O.O
But you could always.....i dont know.....tell her to not text you so much?
This thread is like sitting out in the snow saying its cold, with a jacket right next to you on the sidewalk.
I'm worn out from texting. Maybe my wife and I at our "young age" of 33 are old fashioned. When you're at work, put the mother ****ing god damn ****ing *********** phone down and work. Too hard to do?
I think you need to set some boundaries and let her know how you feel in a nice, cute-like way so she understands. Explain that you have things you need to do and you can talk later when you're both finished with work. If it is important, understandable within reason.
I only hear from my wife while we are at work if it is important, like, we both have to make a decision on a contractor coming out to work or if something else is oging on.Otherwise,we don't do small talk as we have respect and principals we follow.
I think you need to set some boundaries and let her know how you feel in a nice, cute-like way so she understands. Explain that you have things you need to do and you can talk later when you're both finished with work. If it is important, understandable within reason.
I only hear from my wife while we are at work if it is important, like, we both have to make a decision on a contractor coming out to work or if something else is oging on.Otherwise,we don't do small talk as we have respect and principals we follow.
Tell her your boss said he does not pay you to text.
Over the long term this is going to be an issue. Just wait till you move in. I would take it as a sign of things to come. I would address your concerns and see if it helps before selling my home and moving in.
Wait a minute here. You're selling your house to move in with her? I can't get past that part.
I know neither of you so don't take that in a bad way but I'd step back & do some thinking on that one.
I know neither of you so don't take that in a bad way but I'd step back & do some thinking on that one.
You both missed the Girlfriend thread where he calls her his future wifey? Sounds like it's a done deal.
You're upset that your girlfriend is communicating with you? People are telling you to leave her (if she does not reduce her texting)?
Quit being a little beta, either tell her how you really feel or turn off your phone's notifications (you can check back your notifications when YOU want to). Simple.
Quit being a little beta, either tell her how you really feel or turn off your phone's notifications (you can check back your notifications when YOU want to). Simple.
We talked and she now understands.
“I love that you want to text so much, it shows me that you’re really interested in me...something about not being a big texter, mostly because I’m busy...something about how great she is...”
Have surprise make up buttsex and hope she changes.
Have surprise make up buttsex and hope she changes.
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