How many of us have children?

BlckBox04

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Or who plans on having their first or more?

I know they’re life changing, 99% of the people I know in my age bracket have them. But in the current global environment we’re in, if you have none do you think twice about it?

The wife actually mentioned to me recently she’s on the fence now partially because of almost being forced to home school and partially because of the craziness our society has become. I particularly am on the fence also now. I don’t believe we should be teaching kids to wear masks as a norm or teach them there’s no difference between a man or a woman or that the terms mom, dad, brother sister don’t exist.

I’d like to know how you all feel about it also
 

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I have 3 boys, and I do agree with what you said about how society is these days. IMO no matter how the world is there is NO feeling like coming home and your kid running up to you with a smile on his/her face being so excited to see you. I say live YOUR life and have as many kids as you can afford to. I wouldn’t trade my kids for the world...the wife tho...jk
 

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Through this CF of 2020, I felt very fortunate our kids are 16 and 20. I could not even imagine, trying to entertain younger children through the lock down etc.

When I was younger, I did not want children. Boy was that thinking wrong. We have been blessed with 2 fantastic now young men, and can NOT even begin to imagine life with out them.

To each their own
 

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Ok so my children are older but I would think a lot differently about it if we were just starting out. I had a discussion with my wife at lunch today about a 15 year old girl that she takes to school. The girl told her she took a lot of crap and bullying from several other students because her teacher in her science class asked if she would date a transgender. She answered very intelligently for her age and said no because they would never be able to have kids on there own and no matter what a person does to get a gender change she believes that you can’t change how you are born on the inside. Thankfully this young lady has older parents that have taught her well. Our teachers are a lot of the problem. I would have a huge problem with a teacher asking one of my kids in high school something like this.


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Ok so my children are older but I would think a lot differently about it if we were just starting out. I had a discussion with my wife at lunch today about a 15 year old girl that she takes to school. The girl told her she took a lot of crap and bullying from several other students because her teacher in her science class asked if she would date a transgender. She answered very intelligently for her age and said no because they would never be able to have kids on there own and no matter what a person does to get a gender change she believes that you can’t change how you are born on the inside. Thankfully this young lady has older parents that have taught her well. Our teachers are a lot of the problem. I would have a huge problem with a teacher asking one of my kids in high school something like this.


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It’s the stuff like this that makes me really wonder. We both work A LOT and home schooling really isn’t an option but there isn’t a shot in hell I’m letting these morons teach my children this stuff.
 

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I'm 39 and have 3:.⁴.5, e and 5.mos. they are the best thing one could ever ask for. It's easy to let the world affect your mind. But remember, you control your world and your house. Don't let others dictate what you want or can have. We need more people in this world who want kids. Unfortunately there are far too many who have kids and do t want them, except the paycheck or benefits it brings them.

I will never tell anyone when to have kids. You will know. I started late but I'm glad I did. Seeing people with kids in their early 20s is nuts imo. But I will say this. Do not wait too long. It took my wife and I 5 years and 5 grand for iui for our first. Then after that the next 2 came easily and fast. But we honestly didn't think we were going to have any. You just never know. Put trust in God.
 

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I guess I have this feeling that id rather not let something so innocent and pure be so corrupted by the shit that we’ve dealt with in the past year. But I am a firm believer that good parenting is what molds kids and that’s the part that has me leaning towards doing it.
 

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My wife and I welcomed our first the day before my 40th birthday and we are now expecting our second and I will be 43 at that time. A lot of things in this world have changed even in just the last three years. In my opinion it is even more important now for level headed and hard working people to have kids and raise them likewise. The movie idiocracy comes to mind as an alternative.
 

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We do and will be having more.


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Or who plans on having their first or more?

I know they’re life changing, 99% of the people I know in my age bracket have them. But in the current global environment we’re in, if you have none do you think twice about it?

The wife actually mentioned to me recently she’s on the fence now partially because of almost being forced to home school and partially because of the craziness our society has become. I particularly am on the fence also now. I don’t believe we should be teaching kids to wear masks as a norm or teach them there’s no difference between a man or a woman or that the terms mom, dad, brother sister don’t exist.

I’d like to know how you all feel about it also

I have many many many regrets and being a father is one of the most difficult things I've taken on in my life (next to being a husband) but when i count all the things that i could change about my life having these two knuckleheads is not among them.
 

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I've got a 3 year old boy and another little one on the way. I really wasn't sure i wanted kids but my wife kinda pushed me into it. Best decision I've ever made. Seeing my boy when I get home makes my day, every day. Doesnt matter how bad of a day I had that all melts away when he comes running up to me when I walk through the door. He's a miniature version of myself, loves anything with an engine and wheels, hard headed and clumsy as hell.

My wife and I often ask ourselves what the hell we are doing bringing children into this world, but honestly it's up to us to teach them how to be a good person, to love and to care for others, to be productive members of society, to work hard and do their best. Its frustrating as hell but its also so rewarding.

I do think about when it was just me and my wife, do whatever we want on a whim, not much to worry about, see our friends more often etc, but I wouldn't trade any of that for what I have now. I would choose hanging out with my family any day of the week over any of that other stuff.

I guess the point im getting to is forget about the stuff going on in the world, if you want kids you should have them and all the stuff just won't matter as much anymore. You'll do anything and everything to make sure your kid is taken care of. Kids rock man
 

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without children, life is meaningless. Many studies have shown lifetime regrets, they all say "I wish I had children".

I had a great life until 33 years old LOL. Children are a pain in the ass. You will not sleep. You will wake up every hour. You will change a shitty diaper every hour. you will yell and scream every hour.

but in the end, what IS life, without LIFE ?

children remind us of purity. The smiles, the love, the joy. It really is true bliss. The benefits truly out weigh the selfishness Becoming a father has made me a better person. If I died tomorrow I would die happing seeing my girls smile.
 

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We had our first back in February of 2020, it’s definitely been an interesting year, but he’s nothing short of amazing. While being stressful, especially since he can walk (basically run) seeing him grow up and learn is really special.

We’re both 34 and wanted to wait a bit before having kids to enjoy each other and get good jobs and in a place we felt financially secure to have kids. Some people will say we waited too long, but don’t let anyone tell you when it’s time to have kids, you’ll know when it’s time.
 

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I became the father of 1 beautiful baby girl last year before the real COVID stupidity took hold.

Its up to my wife and I to teach her how the world is, right from wrong, and help her build a solid mental and emotional foundation.

Quite literally, having my daughter in my life is possibly the most amazing thing in the world!
 

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I became the father of 1 beautiful baby girl last year before the real COVID stupidity took hold.

Its up to my wife and I to teach her how the world is, right from wrong, and help her build a solid mental and emotional foundation.

Quite literally, having my daughter in my life is possibly the most amazing thing in the world!
go for #2 real fast LOL ....****ing game changer !!
 

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We have two. Our son turned 20 today and our daughter is 17. It's all in how you raise them. It's actually entertaining to see a bunch of late teens, early 20's "kids" making fun of millennials and how soft they can be.
 

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I have two young ones and zero regrets.

Best part of life is coming home and seeing two little faces light up when I walk through that door. Hugs are the best after 12 hours at work

Don't really stress over the world or politics of today. I'll teach them and its up to them to decide what path they want to go down
 
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We have 3 boys, two planned and a bonus baby.

There are days when I want to strangle them, or myself. The oldest, almost 9, has a serious attitude problem. E-learning certainly isn’t helping, but that’s a whole thread unto itself.

But despite all the headaches and rage, they’re still worth it.
 

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