What's the point of marriage?

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Perhaps, but, statistically, it's your child that will benefit long term.

Ultimately that’s the goal for us anyway. We just happen to have it fairly easy ourselves as we are. Obviously we both want for more but aren’t hurting for anything. It takes a lot of strain out of a marriage.
 

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Perhaps, but, statistically, it's your child that will benefit long term.

To those who do not want to marry:

Do not cohabitate. Do not have her receive mail at your residence. Do not attach your name or hers to any accounts of any kind. Due to "common law marriage" and community property states, you might as well get married legally. The result might just be the same if you separate.

There is nothing wrong with "dating" someone for the rest of your life, provided the other person is aware of and agrees to the "relationship".

I think the divorce rate is high due to people rushing into marriage for financial reasons and the ease and availability to divorce. Marriage isn't taken seriously, so no work is put into it and people just cut and run.

Finding the right woman takes time and effort. Those that put in the work find the right woman and are happy in their marriage.
Not wanting to marry doesnt necesarily mean that person is looking for a way out... I am common law with my girl, never thought about ways out. Marriage doesnt change that.
 

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yes but a mom is a full time job. I would be cool with that 100% broham.

And likewise. It took YEARS for Tanya to understand not to fight WITH me (I dont cause fights, long as the rent's paid and there's clothes to wear, the rest is NOT worth fighting about. I've never cheated on a girl i've been with, etc)

Its us vs the world. Team Josh and Tanya. She understands that now, and we live for each other every day. Relationships need 150% from both parties, or they will fail. 50% from one will fail. Both parties need to be in 100%.

Sounds like you found a good one like I did. Glad to see other's experience really good relationships. My wife is my best friend just like yours.
 

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I can see both sides here and I think it depends on the person. Now that there isn't any accountability in marriage I'm starting to not see the point. If you can undo it just as easily as it's done why even bother with the wedding expenses. I will say, if kids are involved, it's your responsibility to suck it the **** up, be an adult, and work it out. Unfortunately society is full of a bunch of selfish pieces of shit these days.
 

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Sounds like you found a good one like I did. Glad to see other's experience really good relationships. My wife is my best friend just like yours.

been at home with wifey since Monday (she had surgery on her back) and been at home taking care of her. Sucked to have to go back to work today lolol she's at home playing on my PC :D
 

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Details on "badly as it could go"? How long were you married?

We were together for 7 years, married for 4. How badly could it go you ask? Well, when I finally threw her out she was pregnant with #2 that was not mine and was drinking and doing drugs while pregnant. I had to wire tap her cell phone and the landline because everything that came out of her mouth was lies and deception.

She came from a rough background but really seemed to turn things around during the early years of our relationship. Then a couple years into the marriage she basically reverted to her old life. Luckily she turned her life back around quickly after we split and we now have an amicable relationship and share custody of the kids.
 

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I’m atheist and would like to get married. I agree with everyone who says it’s about giving 100% of yourself to someone. If you don’t have marriage it’s just to easy to walk away when things get hard. If I marry someone it’s because I without a doubt found the women I am suppose to be with. If I can’t find that certainty with whom ever I’m dating then I won’t marry that person.
 

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Sure, when you get down to basics it is just a piece of paper. But it is more, at least when it is the right person.

You make a public commitment in front of friends and family. You put faith and trust into a person.

I think the meaning has become skewed since so many give up and turn to divorce so quickly.


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Been with my girlfriend for about 9 years. Lived together for 8 years. So we’re basically married in my opinion. But she pressures me constantly about buying her a ring. To the point where I can’t save money to buy myself toys, unless I get her a ring first. I’m almost to the point to just buy a ring, just to “get it out of the way”. Which is not very healthy.

So I don’t really see a point in marriage. It’s just a title for a couple to have. My parents are divorced, and I grew up watching my parents argue a lot. So I was never around the traditional “happy” marriage couple.

You and I are in the same boat. Been together 9 years and living together 8!
I buy her flowers every weekend she serves (national guard) and she will make comments "no ring"
 

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I am married to my kids. Don't need another source of stress!
 

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