My life has been a whirlwind for a couple of years now... [cliffs at the bottom]
In September 2016 I rushed in to getting married because I felt like it was the right decision. Hours after the ceremony ended, I realized how big of a mistake I had made. I figured I could make it work, but it ended up with me being constantly miserable to the point that it was effecting me not only at home, but at work as well.
In April of 2017 I started meeting with my attorney about filing for divorce. I was hoping to have it all planned out before even springing it on her. She knew it was going poorly, but I never used the 'd' word, because before this, I didn't believe in it.
I finally got everything lined out in the middle of May. She was taking a trip at the end of May with a friend (both on my dime), so I figured I would tell her when she got back. I picked her up at the airport, and endured the longest 25 minute ride of my life in near silence. Once we got back to the house I sat her down and explained that I was done, and that my attorney would be filing the divorce papers the next day.
We filed, she hired an attorney (50 year old lady who had been divorced 4 times herself), and round and round we went. On July 1st I found out she was 9 weeks pregnant. I hated myself for even allowing that to have been a chance. I quickly got over that, as I've wanted to be a dad my whole life. So I switched gears, still following through with the divorce, but was a lot more understanding and not as pressing as I should've/could've been. Being relaxed at this point and expecting her to return the favor was a HUGE mistake.
Her attorney stone-walled every attempt we made at coming to some sort of financial agreement and a parenting plan. In 2017 we sent 6 financial settlement agreements, and received 0 in return.
During the summer of 2017 I reconnected with a girl I had dated years ago, the only thing that ended us the first time was timing...we were both in very different parts of our lives, and I wasn't willing to give up the 'fun' part of mine. It was really nice to speak to someone about the whole process that had been through it herself. She has 2 kids from a previous marriage, 4 and 6 years of age. We wanted to make sure that we were serious about giving us a try, before I met them.
After a few months we both realized that this is what we wanted. Picked up right where we left off. We obviously still have disagreements and what not, but life is finally good again. I'm happy at home, and happy at work. Just happy in general. Some will say it's the honeymoon phase, but it's really a lot closer to a very understanding, happy, business relationship. We both know what we need from each other, and what we don't want. It's been amazing.
My son, James, was born on February 12, 2018 and I couldn't have been more excited. He was perfectly healthy, despite being 2 weeks early. James has since cracked in to the 99th percentile for height and weight, such a happy little chunk.
It's been a lot of fun watching all 3 of the kids get to know each other and spend time together. I wouldn't change anything about it.
We've talked about marriage, which will happen at some point. We've talked about having another kiddo. Talked about buying a condo in Colorado Springs. Talked about taking a hiatus to Europe for a few weeks.
About 6 weeks ago, I won the lottery. She called me at work and asked if I could run home real quick. My first thought was one of the dogs had died or was sick...then I thought maybe a family member was sick..etc. Well I got home and she told me that we were having a baby! I was beyond excited, she was nervous, which is understandable..but nonetheless, we are BOTH very excited now!
She's an amazing mother to her two, and mine...I can't wait to watch her mother our child.
This weekend we made it known to our immediate family and friends, so I thought that the natural progression would be to let SVTP know Monday morning!
Cliffs:
Guy meets wrong girl.
Guy and wrong girl get married, divorced and have baby
Guy reconnects with right girl.
Guy and right girl have baby!
In September 2016 I rushed in to getting married because I felt like it was the right decision. Hours after the ceremony ended, I realized how big of a mistake I had made. I figured I could make it work, but it ended up with me being constantly miserable to the point that it was effecting me not only at home, but at work as well.
In April of 2017 I started meeting with my attorney about filing for divorce. I was hoping to have it all planned out before even springing it on her. She knew it was going poorly, but I never used the 'd' word, because before this, I didn't believe in it.
I finally got everything lined out in the middle of May. She was taking a trip at the end of May with a friend (both on my dime), so I figured I would tell her when she got back. I picked her up at the airport, and endured the longest 25 minute ride of my life in near silence. Once we got back to the house I sat her down and explained that I was done, and that my attorney would be filing the divorce papers the next day.
We filed, she hired an attorney (50 year old lady who had been divorced 4 times herself), and round and round we went. On July 1st I found out she was 9 weeks pregnant. I hated myself for even allowing that to have been a chance. I quickly got over that, as I've wanted to be a dad my whole life. So I switched gears, still following through with the divorce, but was a lot more understanding and not as pressing as I should've/could've been. Being relaxed at this point and expecting her to return the favor was a HUGE mistake.
Her attorney stone-walled every attempt we made at coming to some sort of financial agreement and a parenting plan. In 2017 we sent 6 financial settlement agreements, and received 0 in return.
During the summer of 2017 I reconnected with a girl I had dated years ago, the only thing that ended us the first time was timing...we were both in very different parts of our lives, and I wasn't willing to give up the 'fun' part of mine. It was really nice to speak to someone about the whole process that had been through it herself. She has 2 kids from a previous marriage, 4 and 6 years of age. We wanted to make sure that we were serious about giving us a try, before I met them.
After a few months we both realized that this is what we wanted. Picked up right where we left off. We obviously still have disagreements and what not, but life is finally good again. I'm happy at home, and happy at work. Just happy in general. Some will say it's the honeymoon phase, but it's really a lot closer to a very understanding, happy, business relationship. We both know what we need from each other, and what we don't want. It's been amazing.
My son, James, was born on February 12, 2018 and I couldn't have been more excited. He was perfectly healthy, despite being 2 weeks early. James has since cracked in to the 99th percentile for height and weight, such a happy little chunk.
It's been a lot of fun watching all 3 of the kids get to know each other and spend time together. I wouldn't change anything about it.
We've talked about marriage, which will happen at some point. We've talked about having another kiddo. Talked about buying a condo in Colorado Springs. Talked about taking a hiatus to Europe for a few weeks.
About 6 weeks ago, I won the lottery. She called me at work and asked if I could run home real quick. My first thought was one of the dogs had died or was sick...then I thought maybe a family member was sick..etc. Well I got home and she told me that we were having a baby! I was beyond excited, she was nervous, which is understandable..but nonetheless, we are BOTH very excited now!
She's an amazing mother to her two, and mine...I can't wait to watch her mother our child.
This weekend we made it known to our immediate family and friends, so I thought that the natural progression would be to let SVTP know Monday morning!
Cliffs:
Guy meets wrong girl.
Guy and wrong girl get married, divorced and have baby
Guy reconnects with right girl.
Guy and right girl have baby!
