If you had fatal disease and months to live would you..

[01Jes]

This! Great comments brother!

I know that a crippling disease is horrible, and there might be circumstances where ending the life is justified. And sometimes doctors prolong life when perhaps they shouldn't (ie. when they are testing drugs and procedures, which happens).

I'll add a question to the OP. Do you think that taking your life would not be an equal blow to your family? A better choice would be to continue to share your love for them to share every remaining moment with the ones you love and who love you. My son-in-law died of a fatal brain disease over two years ago. In the last month of his life he was often not conscious of those around him, or at least didn't appear to be. But, during the entire year after his diagnosis he battled the disease HARD and actually lived about 6 months longer than was predicted by his doctor. There were tears of emotional pain cried by us all many times, and there were tears of joy many times as well. We cried, and we laughed. We encouraged, and we stood together. We loved together!

Bottom line is that we will never forget those moments and we're so happy we got to share them with him. His strength in the battle with the disease also has had a huge impact on me, my wife, my daughter, and their 3 daughters who are now 19, 21 and 25. They are all stronger than they've ever been and KNOW how to persevere, to love, to appreciate, and how to push forward to their life and personal goals. They can it 'Dragon Strong'. Their last name. So I just don't see how taking ones life is a more positive decision than pressing on to enjoy the time you have together (time your family deserves to share with you).

You’re a good man Bob I’ve seen you around when I had my Terminator many years ago. You make some valid points I also send my condolences to your family in regards to your son-in-law. To focus on your question, either way yes you’re right, it would be a tremendous shock to my family I’m sure. Although with proper preparation that may help. I watched both of my aunts pass away quickly from dementia and other diseases because they didn’t take care of themselves. It’s an agonizing death. However, I’d like to die on my terms and not in a hospital. It’s a difficult subject to address no matter what. Good talk my man. We have some positive hardcore mofos in this forum.

:Beer toast to all:

 

[Tifosi2003GT]

I'm not afraid of the box... When the time comes I just go.

 

[Mustang_02]

I'm not afraid of the box... When the time comes I just go.

I'm looking forward to the box.

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[DaleM]

I would give my wife herpes so I would be with her forever.

Too late, I already gave it to her. Lol

 

[Smooth]

I don't fear death. And I don't believe WebMD.

 

[RedVenom48]

I don't fear death. And I don't believe WebMD.

EVERYTHING leads to cancer in WebMD lol

 

[MG0h3]

I'd get my affairs in order to leave my loved ones in the best situation possible. Sell or deed over real estate, cars, tools etc.

And just spend as much time with them as possible. Pray that the doctors ****ed up and I'm not really sick.......

 

[blk02edge]

attempt to steal a fighter jet... If I somehow got it, i would do as many mach 1+ passes over my buddy's houses before I got shot down.

 

[jaxbusa]

On October 27, 1997, Oregon enacted the Death with Dignity Act which allows terminally-ill Oregonians to end their lives through the voluntary self-administration of lethal medications, expressly prescribed by a physician. Depending on my life insurance, I might visit Oregon. No sense running my family’s emotions and finances through the wringer for a few extra painful weeks.


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[BigPoppa]

I would give my wife herpes so I would be with her forever.

Tell everyone you're dying of AIDS so none of your friends will sleep with her after you kick the bucket.

 

[BigPoppa]

Hire myself out to some disgustingly rich big game hunter as the "ultimate prey". He puts a few million in an account for my wife, I let him stalk and kill me in the jungle. Of course, I'd make him work for it. Gotta give your customers their money worth.

 

[Zemedici]

I would not self terminate. I would enjoy every last freaking moment of my life.
Damn the bills, damn the car payment. Id be at the drag strip every night I could go. Id take my woman and hit up a few strip clubs and end up at a nice Irish pub.

Id get a pound of the dankest dank, buy a black label Roor bong with ice pinch and enjoy the company of my family and friends. Tunes? Id start the record collection Ive been toying with. Dark Side of the Moon, Down on the Upside and Ride the Lightning on heavy rotation.

Life is a wonderful, amazing gift. Being blessed with living in the first world is another gift I cant be thankful enough for. Id enjoy it until I took my last breath and got ready to meet my maker, so to speak.

Dumb question, which of these things can you do now, realistically, and why dont you do them?

Just curious.

 

[HudsonFalcon]

Tell everyone you're dying of AIDS so none of your friends will sleep with her after you kick the bucket.

Perfect. It's like a Brockton Fairy Tale.

 

[jpro]

Ironically, we had a member 2-3 years ago who went through this. Jason Schwartz. May he continue to rest in peace. I know many of us friended him on Facebook during his last few months.

https://www.svtperformance.com/forums/threads/made-the-toughest-choice-in-my-life-today.1071319/

 

[DaleM]

Spend as much time with family as possible. Once I became a burden or if in excruciating pain it would make me consider checking out on a morphine drip. Would consult with family on that decision of course.

 

[CobraBob]

You’re a good man Bob I’ve seen you around when I had my Terminator many years ago. You make some valid points I also send my condolences to your family in regards to your son-in-law. To focus on your question, either way yes you’re right, it would be a tremendous shock to my family I’m sure. Although with proper preparation that may help. I watched both of my aunts pass away quickly from dementia and other diseases because they didn’t take care of themselves. It’s an agonizing death. However, I’d like to die on my terms and not in a hospital. It’s a difficult subject to address no matter what. Good talk my man. We have some positive hardcore mofos in this forum.

:Beer toast to all:

Good points, my brother. I totally understand. We're talking about very challenging, very personal decisions. We're going through a tough time now with my mother-in-law, who requires 24/7 care due to a stroke she had about 10 years ago. She lost most of her mobility and her brain doesn't function like it used to. She can no longer even use her walker. She is pained by the loss of her mobility, but loves to be surrounded by her family. And her family loves to care for her. Because of the high cost of nursing/assistance care, most of the care has to be provided by my wife. Mom needs to be bathed, taken to the bathroom (supervised), fed, put into bed, gotten out of bed, sat in a chair, etc. My wife is literally living in her mom's home from 3:30 PM to 10:00 AM every day. She doesn't sleep here. She sleeps there, every night. My wife and I are both fine with that. I miss her terribly and she misses me terribly. Fortunately we work together, so I see her from 10:30 AM - 2:30 PM Monday through Thursday. It's hard for her mom to see my wife and I apart, but she isn't ready to depart. That said, I have thought many times over the past few months what would I do in the same situation. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be a burden, and I don't think I would be able to handle the loss of control of the things I take for granted now. Things like driving, housekeeping, bathing, washing clothes, using the bathroom privately, etc. I've told a number of my friends that I can see a day in the future when we will all be able to make our own decisions on extending our lives when our quality of life has declined due to health or physical issues. It's a very personal decision in that case, but if possible loving family members should be included in the decision making process. At least when possible.

Me? I'm on the fence relative to my own life. My wife, for example? I couldn't likely let her go. These are extremely personal and sensitive decisions, and there is no absolute answer that works for everyone. The example of my son-in-law and my daughter was right for their family. We're all different. Our situations are all different and very personal. Truth be told, I would bet the vast majority of us would hope that we pass in our sleep, peacefully, before we are suffering health or physical issues that degrade our quality of life.

 

[Smooth]

Spend as much time with family as possible. Once I became a burden or if in excruciating pain it would make me consider checking out on a morphine drip. Would consult with family on that decision of course.

I'd like to be on a morphine drip right now. Anybody who's ever had morphine would understand.

 

[DaleM]

I'd like to be on a morphine drip right now. Anybody who's ever had morphine would understand.

Yeah been there. Take oxycontin extended release to keep pain levels down to 7ish.

 

[RedVenom48]

Ironically, we had a member 2-3 years ago who went through this. Jason Schwartz. May he continue to rest in peace. I know many of us friended him on Facebook during his last few months.

https://www.svtperformance.com/forums/threads/made-the-toughest-choice-in-my-life-today.1071319/

Damn, I remember that thread.... Things like that really put life into perspective.

 

[Smooth]

Yeah been there. Take oxycontin extended release to keep pain levels down to 7ish.

I remember you talking about yer pain. I wish you didn't have to deal with it still. I had about a 10 year bout with pain but have made it to a point where I no longer need prescription meds. But morphine is the shit.